Dating Advice!!

Hi Guys

Thank you for your ongoing support.

I don't have much experience when it comes to dating nor relationships. I don't know what to expect. I don't know what to do, say or respond.

I am at the early stages of the guy I am seeing. He is older and more experienced than I am. He shows a lot of interest. Says the right things and does the right things. Sending out all the right signals. We are taking things slow. Texting each other. He is not afraid to flirt via text. Although I kinda clam up and don't know how to respond.

We have arranged to go out on our first date around 13th May. I am off next week from work. I have invited him out for an activity to join me and my sister next week. Despite he has strong anxiety. He informed me he is up for coming. He texts me nearly every day and likes my posts and shares pictures of my facebook.

But I kinda feel nervous on how to respond. Just don't know what to do due to my lack of experience.

I really like him and find him a lovely guy who I do want to get to know and see how things go.

Any advice?

Hello anxiousmess,

Being still a greenhorn dater myself, my first date wasn't so long ago, we both felt equality awkward about what to say to each other at first, but I ended up breaking that by being myself while just stating the obvious, "Looks like we are both feeling uncomfortable, why don't we just walk together and some topic will come up , sorry for this weird moment" , when ended up having a laugh with one another, it started with small talk (which I hate) then we eventually got comfortable.

My advice from my first date is : think about at least one topic to address, one will bring another.

And just be yourself, nobody is perfect, even hot shot daters.

Good luck

Each date is a new experience, two people seeing if they connect.

It's great that you're taking things slow. It's really important. Why?

I've found over the years when dating, people can be on their best behaviour for a certain period. Once that period is up - usually when the 'chase' is over and they consider that they have what they want, then that's when their true nature comes out.

I mean think about it. You want to impress someone. Of course you put yourself on your best behaviour. But that's not your true self. Your comfortable, unguarded open self.

So in my opinion to be truly happy in a relationship, you need to find someone that accepts you for who you really are. And that means being yourself so the other person can get to know the real you.

It also means you need to take time to get to know the other person before committing to a serious relationship. They have to let their guard down, so to speak, to reveal their true self.

I truly believe this is going to give you the best chance at finding someone you are compatible with.
One thing I do know, never stay in a relationship that doesn't fulfill BOTH of your needs.

I hope at least some of what I have said makes sense.. lol