correlation between...

I think I wrote about something similar earlier but here's a new spin..

While we were at the theme park last week, I realized something that I never thought there was a correlation between the two, but I think there may be something there...

So, my nephew (4 yrs old) went on 2 rollercoasters with his parents and I was asked if I'd like to go, and I quickly turned to a bundle of nerves and said NO thanks!
..mind you, these were kiddie roller coasters - really more fun than scary, lol.

So there I was sitting there - but it got me thinking. When I was his age and up til my 30s, my parents would always say things like:

"that looks scary, I wouldn't do that if I were you"
"You can't drive, it's too scary"
etc...

At any rate, my point is that virtually everything I wanted to do there would be a negative retort back from the parents emphasizing the word SCARY.

I am very thankful to see that my nephew's parents are not saying things with a negative connotation to thwart his growing - mentally...

I wish when I wanted to ride a roller coaster, or whatever, at his age, someone would have said OK...and it be MY choice, and not because they were scared and so that translated into "well if I am scared, so will she"

I think a lot of what my 'fears' are today is largely based on what pounded into my brain at an early age and it continued til my early 30s.

Would CBT help with this or is there a way to 'reprogram' this way of thinking?
Just curious.

Well, at the very least, CBT should be able to help alleviate the problem. You just need to eliminate (or replace) the "scary" stigma to "doing new things/things that you want to do" and it should help to give you a new correlation to it.

I so very envy people who had encouraging parents, who supported them to do things. I loved when I was in England the attitude of my employers. They said - you will have to drive here. I said I can´t, they said you learn it it´s easy. When I said I am afraid and that I won´t be able to, they were laughing and making jokes, that I will soon drive like a Schumacher. They were so easy and positive about it, I felt it was so mentally freeing. Because I was used to my parents, grandparents and everyone always putting obstacles in front of me, scaremongering because of every shit, prohibiting me to do things or go places.. No wonder english people are so confident if they have upbringing in this style.