clubbing, barhopping alone with no experience

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no1

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has anyone here ever gone to a club, or bar, or any other like.. big event by themselves, out of nowhere being alone and never having had much of any experience before going to events even if it was with people or by oneself?

how the **** do you do it?
 
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Serafina said:
I've gone out to bars on my own. I only did it a few times though. I didn't really think much about it. Had I given it any thought, I would have probably been too scared to go.
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I dont think females would have much of a problem. I mean they could but maybe their problems are different and not too applicable to males.

Males on the other hand would, especially with those who want to pick fights and act all 'macho' and shit. and feel 'obligated' to be the most dominant, alpha male prick douchebag there.
 
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I've never been to a bar or nightclub, mainly because I'm not yet of age to get in. I doubt I would even go if I even was of age, simply because the environments of those places makes me uncomfortable as hell.

Sometimes I go to school events, but oftentimes I back out. =/
 
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never went to big events on my own cause id end up getting lost!
when it comes to "barhopping" loads of times, i just try to be myself, its always best to have a few drinks before you go out i reckon, cause then you feel more relaxed.
you cant make everyone like you ive learned, so stuff them!!

in saying all that, im keeping a low profile for a while!!
 
dooby-duck

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I haven't been to a pub / club alone, but if I were to it would have to be a spur of the moment type thing. This wouldn't allow me to think about it too much and talk myself out of it.

I think it would be easier for men to be honest, especially in the UK, where you often see blokes alone in pubs. I wouldn't dwell too much on fights and stuff like that. Sure things can happen but if you keep your wits about you and use common sense you'll usually be OK. If you look at the bad things that can happen too much, you would never do anything.
 
recluse

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It's not really safe to do so, i mean in the towns around here you often hear about some fight o'r some stabbing and that's even happening to people who are not alone! You also get gangs who we call 'chavs' here in the Uk who randomly attack people.
 
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no1 said:
I dont think females would have much of a problem. I mean they could but maybe their problems are different and not too applicable to males.

Males on the other hand would, especially with those who want to pick fights and act all 'macho' and shit. and feel 'obligated' to be the most dominant, alpha male prick douchebag there.
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No way! What about the countless women who are raped, murdered, o'r both?
 
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Step 1: get drunk
Step 2: ramble to the person next to you. That's it. I dont go clubbing, only to bars. Picking up a girl at a bar is a different story than just talking to someone at a bar.
 
no1

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Serafina said:
Why would anyone want to pick a fight with you? Has it happend to you often or do you think it will happen because you saw it in movies?
I'm not saying that some men don't pick fights, they do, but why would they want to pick a fight with you specifically? If you're not the alpha male type and you don't act confident, or otherwise in a dominant manner, you would not pose a risk or challenge to the sort of men who go out looking for fights.

I think you forget that there are hostile women out there and they do try to pick fights with other females and males. It doesn't happen often where I live, but females have other problems to contend with if they go out alone. When a woman is alone, she has to be extra vigilant of her sorroundings. A woman can't just walk into a bar alone and start drinking and not worry about her saftey. My friend and I got chased by a group of men late at night in the underground part of the train station and we were in a pair! Can you imagine the kind of risk a lone woman can run into by going out alone at night? I was lucky to have been able to call a taxi to drive me home on one occasion and the other occasion, I ran into my guy friend at the pub and he walked me home. I'm sure as hell never going out to a pub alone again. Well, unless it is in the daytime and I have a good book with me.
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Actually those alpha, dominant males are "alpha/dominant" simply because they pick on and dominate those weaker than them.

And I wouldn't tolerate it.
 
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no1 said:
I dont think females would have much of a problem. I mean they could but maybe their problems are different and not too applicable to males.

Males on the other hand would, especially with those who want to pick fights and act all 'macho' and shit. and feel 'obligated' to be the most dominant, alpha male prick douchebag there.
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this sentence nearly killed me :D best quote of the year :rolleyes:
But seriously if u have such thoughts even if you plan to go out and never done so,so soon you could become so paranoid that thought of leaving a house gonna be like a nightmare.And being beaten or jumped are the same chances as to being killed by a car while crossing the road.
 
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A few more months and I'll be able to go to bars and junk but I doubt I will go. I'm just dreading people asking me stuff like, "So what did you do for your 19th Bday? Did you and your friends go to the bar?" My response will be "No I don't really like to drink alcohol or go to those types of places." From that response I will get looks of disgust, people snickering at me and replies of "What's wrong with you?" this is then followed by them talking behind my back :( ugh....why me?
 
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member "miss-amy" told me a few days ago that she plans to go to a club & become a socialite...maybe she will post here & tell you how it went.
 
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PunkRotten said:
Your mistake is going to clubs/bars, find something more cleaner/suitable. You dont wanna deal with drunks and all these immature competitive dumbasses.
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now thats an attitude of a 5 year old,with a doom and gloom sunglasses on :cool:
or the USA has a different culture in clubs and pubs meaning,where people go to pick on each other,to prove whos strongest and then stab the rest :rolleyes:
 
Cynic

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no1 said:
I dont think females would have much of a problem. I mean they could but maybe their problems are different
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You're having a laugh mate! Women in pubs/bars/clubs on their own are at a higher risk of being pestered and possiblly attacked by sex pests who think they are fair game.

doesit said:
now thats an attitude of a 5 year old,with a doom and gloom sunglasses on :cool:
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How is it? :confused:

doesit said:
or the USA has a different culture in clubs and pubs meaning,where people go to pick on each other,to prove whos strongest and then stab the rest :rolleyes:
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That sounds like city centres in Britain Fri/Sat nights.
 
dream

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I went to a club when i sixteen.It was okay,i went with a friend. have gone to watch a movie by my self only one time though.
 
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doesit said:
now thats an attitude of a 5 year old,with a doom and gloom sunglasses on :cool:
or the USA has a different culture in clubs and pubs meaning,where people go to pick on each other,to prove whos strongest and then stab the rest :rolleyes:
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Usually when i hear about fights or shooting at the club scene it's between guys that already know each other. Regardless If I do go I still travel with a few friends since I most likely will be drinking lol.
 
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Jannah

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I don't go to bars or clubs by myself, but I do go to music (rock) shows in the city by my self all the time where there are mini bars located inside. To be honest, as long as you don't bother any one and mind your business I don't see why any would pick a fight with you. It all depends on your attitude and how you act. The real trouble for me comes after the show ends and going home alone in the streets of Brooklyn or Manhattan by my self, because of all the muggings that occur. I do go out to eat to some restaurants by my self as well, and almost always go to the movies alone.
 
Flowers-Of-Bloom

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If I go out, I never go alone.

1. I am female.
2. I am underage.
3. There's no point going alone, honestly. Completely ruins any hope of enjoyment.

Cynic said:
You're having a laugh mate! Women in pubs/bars/clubs on their own are at a higher risk of being pestered and possiblly attacked by sex pests who think they are fair game.
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This is why I go to gay bars. Unless there are some rough Lesbians about.
 
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recluse

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niceangry said:
A few more months and I'll be able to go to bars and junk but I doubt I will go. I'm just dreading people asking me stuff like, "So what did you do for your 19th Bday? Did you and your friends go to the bar?" My response will be "No I don't really like to drink alcohol or go to those types of places." From that response I will get looks of disgust, people snickering at me and replies of "What's wrong with you?" this is then followed by them talking behind my back :( ugh....why me?
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So the legal age is 19 in Canada? It's here in the UK, but it didn't make much of a difference to me as i'm not really into going out and getting drunk. I do enjoy a beer o'r two with a meal usually though.
 
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