Can't stand patronizing

Strong_Silent_One · Dec 24, 2008

I don't know if i'm doing this because of SP or either i've gone finally nuts, but the fact is i'm rejecting all my friends.
I used to go with a group of people out to dinner and to have fun... but gradually i more and more felt like they were being far too much patronizing with me. And i don't like being patronized. I'm almost 40 years old. So there you have it. I don't like at all being told about how life is by a girl or a guy who is only 23 years old, when i'm almost double his/her age.
I know they do it on good will, but still i can't stand it. So when people keeps over and over telling me what should i do like i was a kid, i stop going out with them and when they ask me to go i just invent some excuse cause i don't even want to waste my time explaining anything.
I have already lost contact with many people due to that. I feel very lonely now, but i refuse having any relationship if there's no respect and admiration on both parts.
I really would like to know if there's anyone there who feels related to this.
Thanks.

dan_e · Dec 26, 2008

I do that too Strong_Silent_One. I'm starting to think its SA tricking us though. Our thoughts are driving us to find a reason to seperate ourselves from others.

faithnomore · Dec 28, 2008

I know what you mean (although i'm younger than you) i know what people are like.

There are some people that try to impose their beliefs on others alot. They will tell you how great they are doing, and how wrong people like us are.

Those guys are jerks.

I strongly believe that a relationship would only work if it was a mutual and "normal" one.

(not silly relationships that last a couple of weeks/months ending with a fallout, even though when they were "in love" they claim that they will be together forever

)

stardog · Dec 28, 2008

Strong_Silent_One said:
I don't know if i'm doing this because of SP or either i've gone finally nuts, but the fact is i'm rejecting all my friends.
I used to go with a group of people out to dinner and to have fun... but gradually i more and more felt like they were being far too much patronizing with me. And i don't like being patronized. I'm almost 40 years old. So there you have it. I don't like at all being told about how life is by a girl or a guy who is only 23 years old, when i'm almost double his/her age.
I know they do it on good will, but still i can't stand it. So when people keeps over and over telling me what should i do like i was a kid, i stop going out with them and when they ask me to go i just invent some excuse cause i don't even want to waste my time explaining anything.
I have already lost contact with many people due to that. I feel very lonely now, but i refuse having any relationship if there's no respect and admiration on both parts.
I really would like to know if there's anyone there who feels related to this.
Thanks.

Admiration?? I think your expectations are too high.

If you get on well with these people, and they obviously want you around, surely that's better than being alone? I do know what you mean though.

jiujitsu · Dec 28, 2008

I know what you mean. I get patronized all the time because of the way I am. It makes me not want to hang out with anyone. Even though they are correct sometimes it's not something I want in a friend. You can tell someone they suck without sounding condescending.

Can't stand patronizing

Strong_Silent_One

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