cant communicate with anyone even on the web

daisuki

Member
yes thats true, :cry: probably my communication skills are so weak
even in the web where i must be confident because im not seen by other people. i wonder how other people can make long msn friedn lists and make converstaions please tell me from your experiences on this subject
 
I am shy and nervous in the real world but online I have tons of friends. I just expressed myself without any fear or anything and started trolling message boards and got really good at it.

Do you like videogames? I suggest you start talking to people on NeoGaf forums
 

Lotrsfan

Well-known member
People wouldn't believe that i am really shy and quiet in RL the way i talk on forums and MSN. I have lots of friends on the forums i visit and people i've met through the internet on my MSN contacts list. I feel i can talk to them about anything and have no fear.
 

prince1

Well-known member
Lotrsfan said:
People wouldn't believe that i am really shy and quiet in RL the way i talk on forums and MSN. I have lots of friends on the forums i visit and people i've met through the internet on my MSN contacts list. I feel i can talk to them about anything and have no fear.

Same here i can talk to people for hours online fine but when in RL i can barely get a 2 min convosation started!
 

rado31

Well-known member
daisuki said:
yes thats true, :cry: probably my communication skills are so weak
even in the web where i must be confident because im not seen by other people. i wonder how other people can make long msn friedn lists and make converstaions please tell me from your experiences on this subject

Maybe u are not fond of net communication? You cant see faces, analyze mimics, gesticulation, understand feelings? Dont worry about 'communication skills' , i think our goal is to be as much spontaneous as possible
 

Marvolo

Well-known member
Hi,

I understand you pretty well. I find it diffcult to communicate on the net as well.

You can have the Avoidant personality. Seek on the AvPD forum, I've written there something about some similar situation.

Cheers! :)
 

Some_guy

Well-known member
Force yourself, and jump in. Really, once you're IN IT it becomes a lot easier.

I find that when I had a really social day where I interacted with lots of different people, was the center of attention, etc. Well, after that I'm really not much anxious at all anymore. It's like "well, it is not THAT bad after all"

But when you avoid you make your problem even more real to your brain.

You can start by talking anonymously in chat rooms. If it gets too tense just log off and thank yourself for at least making a step forward
 

daisuki

Member
yeah,its more likely that i have avoidant personality than i have s.p ,maybe i have them both.i simply aovid any communications possible,it just bores me to think of what to say next ,how i will make good relations to the person etc..
thanks anyway
 
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