blushing in work - ruining my life!

jen84

New member
Hi,

I have been a blusher for most of my life. I always thought i'd grow out of it but im 24 now and it's still ruling my life. I only ever blush inappropriately in work and unfortunately i have to spend 40 hrs a week there! People just have to talk to me and i blush. it's mainly when they ask a question about ME e.g where are you going on holiday this year? - something dumb like that and it sets me off! its horrible! im currently trying green makeup and facial redness no 7 moisturiser but im not sure of the results because i still burn up to the point i think my face is gunna explode.

so anyway the biggest problem im having at the moment is that me and my partner have just started trying for a baby and i know this sounds ridiculous but you guys proberbly do exactly the same and dread moments months or maybe years before they happen!! i'm really dreading telling every1 im pregnant. i was reading the 'birthday' post before i got writing this and i too panick about my birthday in work but for me, this will be like my birthday everyday for the first few weeks! i know it sounds stupid but i dont want to be congratulated and made a fuss of. Dont get me wrong, i'll be really happy but i just dont want it to set off my blushing. It's just an example of blushing ruling my life. I dont want it to decide whether i have a baby or not just because of this intense fear of going red all the tym.

Any ideas on how i should approach work with minimal blushing!? x
 

krs2snow

Well-known member
Hi Jen84. Congratulations! Best of luck to you guys with the baby! :D I wish I had some advice for you but... I don't, really. :oops: :( :oops: I understand how frustrating it is, though. You want to share your life and your experiences with people but it's soo hard when you're bright red as soon as someone looks at you! And of course, someone always draws attention to how red you are. Which is super helpful. :roll: What a happy time for you, though! Can you try to think about the baby or about the people asking you the questions & congratulating you and TRY NOT to think about if you're blushing? Idk. That's horrible advice, I know. But I don't have any ideas... I guess just try to remember that people will make a fuss over you because they are Happy for you! They want to celebrate with you & make you feel special! Maybe try doing the opposite of what you usually do (if you're like me, that is) and confront everyone head on. Like, make a big announcement to all your co-workers "Hey Everyone! I'm Pregnant! Whose throwing my baby shower?" LoL. Easier said then done, I know!
 

Robb5994

New member
Hi Jen,

I'm the same. A work blusher,mainly when the topic and attention is on ME. I can talk about tv, other people,sex etc, and my face is as white as snow. As soon as I get a question like "wot are up to this weekend?". the blushing starts. It's ridiculous! I remember having to tell everyone my wife was pregnant. I was dreading it but I just bit the bullet, blushed of course and said something like, "I'm blushing with all this attention". If I mention I'm blushing it seems to lessen the blush. I've confronted it instead of sitting thinking, "have they noticed it yet?". Nowaday's my colleagues know know I blush easily, so what! Hence, I don't blush as much.

ps wee tip, drink ice cold water along with those menthol chewing gum(like Airwaves in the UK). The menthol and cold water cool my face and body right down and lessen the chance of a blush.

Robb :wink:
 

jen84

New member
sorry for the late response, but i just wanted to say thanks for the advice. I am now 8 weeks pregnant which is fantastic but am approaching the big announcement at work :S. I am going to wait until 12 weeks but have told a few close colleagues which was ok as it was 1 on 1 and i also asked them not to tell any1 else so there would be no unexpected public congratulations. It's so dumb because this is something my partner and i really wanted and waited for. There's one guy in particular that im sure makes it his mission to make me blush. He is outspoken and quite crude and seems to put me on the spot to watch me squirm. He did it again just the other day and it was horrid because i went brigt red, was trembling and all i kept thinking was i hope my baby is ok. Its an awful situation to be in because i have my baby to think about now.
 
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blushgurl

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i know Exactly how you feel. I know that i have so many great ideas and that i am very smart but everytime that anyone even looks at me ask me a question or even hands me something i turn so red. So i end up just working nonstop and avoidin conversations as much as possible which leads to me having less friends and less conversations with my superiors which in turn leads to missed promotions ets. sigh...;(
 
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