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I think I would rather be single so only 1 person disappoints me and not two.
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single is Ok. friends are great, company can be enjoyable. family support when things go wrong is very important. I see a lot of relationships around me breaking down.
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though I don't believe in happy relationship, I think being single is like being dead
It stops being like that the moment you learn to be at peace with yourself.
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It stops being like that the moment you learn to be at peace with yourself.
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No I don't want to be single. I want to be in a loving relationship
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I'd pick being in a relationship. The moments of pure bliss and happiness that you get when you're with that special person simply can't be beat. Living the single life does mean that you're not accountable for anyone but yourself and, at my age, I can find a sense of enjoyment in it. But, I'll lose it eventually and want to settle down. Besides, being alone in old age doesn't end well for most people.

Does that mean that I'll rush into any relationship? Never. I'd take being alone over being angry/miserable/unhappy. It's just a wish that I have that I keep in the back of my head as I live my life.
i just want a relationship and i want it now but yes as you said i want to be in a happy relationship, no one out there to hurt me. i don't want to always be the one who's the 'nice' one.
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I'm everything I am b/c you loved me..

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i was used as a friend and i never want anyone to use me.. No, i will never settle for someone who's not loving just b/c I'm lonely. i know i would be a really nice g/f.

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All I can say is.. I've experienced BOTH sides. While I understand it comes down to personal preference, I have experienced being truly in love and having it reciprocated.

It's truly amazing. Especially compared to the comforts of being alone.




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i was used as a friend and i never want anyone to use me.. No, i will never settle for someone who's not loving just b/c I'm lonely.
Well said Lily. I'm totally of that belief!
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Life is a journey for you to find the right person whether it's friendship or a boyfriend/girlfriend.
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Life is a journey for you to find the right person whether it's friendship or a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Don't be sad Lily, i know that journey sometimes seems to last longer than what it should, but i'm sure you'll find someone eventually.

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I've been a loner since teenage, I can't imagine being in a relationship, all I do in my spare time is household chores and videogames. Sacrificing my time and freedom to someone? Hell no. I don't care how big their hooters are, it's not worth it LOL I am a few clicks away from any kind of hooters at all times anyway, live or recorded, pictures or videos, I just don't see point in chasing them in real life. Besides my social phobia is so bad, I basically can't walk down the street, who wants a partner like that? nobody
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So... if you (anyone on this site) met the right person... one that made you happy, less self conscious, more at ease...etc etc.. would you rather still be single?
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So... if you (anyone on this site) met the right person... one that made you happy, less self conscious, more at ease...etc etc.. would you rather still be single?
Would I want to risk the family meeting and introducing this lassie to my family? Past Christmas get togethers have kinda soured me on the idea of being in the same room with my family to be honest; cuz 9 times outta 10 they ended with massive argument. That, and my older sister has never really had a kind word to say to me, unless asking a favour of me. So...

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So... if you (anyone on this site) met the right person... one that made you happy, less self conscious, more at ease...etc etc.. would you rather still be single?
If the relationship is healthy, of course it's better to be in that relationship. Two people can be a very good match and still meet at the wrong time.
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I've been in both categories and have to say being in a relationship can bring its only challenges...overall i'd say i've been happier in the relationship (marriage of 3 years) but when it isn't going well it can be just as bad if not worse than being alone. I think when I was alone my heart always ached to be in a relatonship just to know what it feels like, to experience love, so loneliness was a big factor contributing to being depressed when I was single..but now I have been there and done that and realised life is different but still isn't perfect, I would probably be more at ease to be single again..not that It wouldn't hurt like hell to go through a marriage breakup that is.
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I've been in both categories and have to say being in a relationship can bring its only challenges...overall i'd say i've been happier in the relationship (marriage of 3 years) but when it isn't going well it can be just as bad if not worse than being alone. I think when I was alone my heart always ached to be in a relatonship just to know what it feels like, to experience love, so loneliness was a big factor contributing to being depressed when I was single..but now I have been there and done that and realised life is different but still isn't perfect, I would probably be more at ease to be single again..not that It wouldn't hurt like hell to go through a marriage breakup that is.
Omg Skins!!

You got married!?

Congratulations man!
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the paradox about social anxiety is that it prevents us from easily forming connections with people, which helps build the skills needed to function better in social interactions. instead SA sufferers withdraw and lose the social skills needed to cope in social situations.

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The ability to pass your burdens to another person is essential to me. I've known toxic relationships, and they'll make you terrified of trusting other people.

But if you manage to find someone that clicks with you, not just in a corny romantic movie type of way, but in ways that make them able to forgive and tolerate the burden you put on them (and vice versa,) everything you do becomes easier because you're not just throwing your own thoughts and efforts at it.
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