Being invisible

ilovenoodles

ilovenoodles

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Recently i become more and more invisible and uniteresting to people in real life. Always have been but now worser then ever.

I can see it at home, work and in public. I great people at work and they look down look or away immediately. It's the same with saying good bye. It sometimes makes me feel so sick inside that i repeat my greetings outloud and they are like:''oh, hi,, while putting the wtf? face on.

When i talk with coworkers they give me short answers and continue talking with another coworker. Same as in grouptalks and i say stuff it's like they can't hear me.

I can see it with my family too. They aren't very interested in me lol.

But it almost reached the limit for me. I just had dinner with my family and when i was speaking and show my interest they don't listen to me at all!

I don't know what to do about this. I know that i shouldn't care about this but it is so demn hard to be invisible.

Someone out there who can give me advice or can tell their stories with simular situations?

(It might has something to do with not acting natural but i'm not sure about this because i didn't really felt i was acting, especially among my family)
 
Dark_Angel

Dark_Angel

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Sometimes the more u treat "good" some ppl and the more they treat u soo bad back.. i'm not saying that u have to treat them like they do , no not that but im just saying that u maybe u do too much for those ones and they take advantage of the situation . its sad i know but there are ppl like that and its not few... u said that u feel uninterested to other ppl well maybe u could try to join some clubs in which u can share some interest in common with them maybe if u like writing or art martials or idk lol something like that u could go into them so u can have something in common , sometimes this invisibility its also caused by the enviroment in which u are , if u feel that bad at ur work u should maybe try other enviorments and other kind of ppl maybe trying to serach a work u like i know its not any easy but the first step its always the most difficult but if u really want that im sure that u can make it =) dont feel down for this , every of us has something special just need to find the right ppl , this ur cooworkers dont deserve that good treating that u give to them , so now see inside ur self ur intersted and try to make them grow now mum is getting angry with me i gotta go eat ^^ but always be strong never forget that u can make it
 
caringsoul

caringsoul

Banned
People tend to treat u the way u treat urself.
try speaking up, people tend to ignore people who seem quiet and lacking in confident
Sitting straight or shoulders back helps to show your confident outwardly.
i know it isnt fair, but thats how society works.
 
CosmicNeurotica

CosmicNeurotica

Banned
Yep. If I'm with someone else, and speak, they respond to the other person instead of me.
Anytime I try to say what's on my mind, they may smile, say nothing, or bring up another topic.
That's one of the reasons why I drink. If you're drunk, people will notice you, and it's easier to talk. (for good or bad, it's better than being ignored)
 
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Darryl

Well-known member
People, need validation for their comments, so they will motion the person who will agree with them.

If we are silent in a conversation, they will turn to confident person to bolster their own opinion.
 
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userremoved

Guest
I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you. I can honestly say I know exactly how you feel. When I was at work and I would pass people in the hallways I would look at them and get ready to wave and greet but they would always look at the floor or somewhere else to avoid eye contact.
 
Niiña

Niiña

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I' m identificated with you, with a diference that always, my opinions are very stupids and bored from the others, I' m sure that you are a very smart person, and your opinions aren't stupids like mine opinions, I think that if you have more faith of yourself and if you have a possitive actitud, you will get it.
 
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Conspiracy

Well-known member
Ah...You need to make some contribution yourself to keep a conversation up. Find what their interests are, and talk about that. Don't invade them with your interests like that o.o, that's a jump you shouldn't be making. You take interest in what they're doing, and you slowly change the topic for your benefit.
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

Well-known member
It happens to me all the time too.When I try to talk ppl just don't seem to care.I feel like my friends also ignore me.Maybe try being more loud,change your looks a little bit,make yourself noticable.
 
shybutsexy

shybutsexy

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It used to happen to me too, it probably happens because when you speak, you do it in a "trying to be friends with" or trying-too-hard/desperate kinda way, and this is not the way to go becuase its a little bit of a turn off for people when they sense you are desperate for attention, or maybe you speak with fear because you are scared of what other people might think of your coment and therefore people sense your insecurity and because of this they dont give a lot of credit to what you said, so first you need to stop caring about what other people think, when you speak up, speak with authority, with confidence, as if you know you are right, as if you were the boss in the room, and then people will listen ;)
 
Falkor

Falkor

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I know what you talk about, I seem very invisible to people, as well, if it comes to approach.
My anxiety is just plain visible, it's around, people notice, i'm not satisfied by it.
I just want them to listen, talk, be open, invite me, encourage me.
Reality is different, sure there are precious moments, but I miss approach.
I miss friends asking me to hang out, I miss it that I don't have much mom or dad quality, just one on one. .

So... Yeah, I am invisible, if I keep telling myself and won't tell anyone how I feel, although it's so friggin' hard to explain what it is like to feel so fearful and always rejected even though I'm not. It's weird but I feel even more than this, it's an exploding trigger in my head, my head is loading, full of words, I wish I could speak them out loud..... But Nope, the quiet girl returns, I do talk more, but still.... I cannot seem visible, because I don't want to be watched..
 
Luka

Luka

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I feel like that too... I don't even bother talking to people anymore unless they start the conversation first because I'm scared of being ignored.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

Well-known member
I'm OK with being invisible. Anonymity is a blessing. It's when people notice you for the wrong reasons I want to disappear.
 
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cloudbound

Active member
Oh I know this feeling well. My mum is the worst for it, she has this habit of saying "yes" in a dismissive way then talking about something else. I don't even bother to try and speak anymore. Everybody else just doesn't acknowledge that I am talking.

Maybe it is that our low self esteem makes us speak in a quiet voice compared to others, and people don't always hear what we're saying but don't like to keep asking you to repeat? Just an idea, (although it's evidently not the case with my mum, the yes is sort of like a "yes, I heard you but it's boring, now lets talk about something else...") that might not be the case at all...I'm just trying to think of the possible reasons people do this, because I'm sure it's not just a coincidence that all of us get ignored!
 
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