Being Crazy

WOW... mixed messages from both of us. - Topic
How this girl views this situation, is how I view every social situation... overthinking it, stressing, without the active involvement of the other person. 'Normal' people used this as a mocking example, and unfortunately I can relate, although I am not at all referring to the given context, but the thought processes/confusion/obsession.
It's always someone I don't know very well either, and consequently won't get to with these attitudes.
E.g. someone said hi one day, does that mean they like me? Then I get conscious of how I'll reply and often get nervous so I chicken out of even making eye contact next time they're near.
If someone gives me even slight attention, I feel like I'm under a spotlight forever when I'm near them.
I read helpful stuff like this
10 simple ways to save yourself from messing up your life
but my head hurts so much I can't make use of it... It vaguely makes sense, but there's too much of a gap between what I really believe in and this mental illness or obsession I can't consciously use this advice.

^ I feel embarrassed that I'm sharing this, but I really don't know what to do anymore. I make a big deal out of everything and it's reducing my lifespan rapidly.

I also tend to over****yze things especially social interactions. I replay social situations over and over again in my head right after they happen, it almost feels like an obsession. For instance when someone particularly of the opposite gender says hi to me and I do the same, I replay the event in my head, even though the event is nothing as important as a birth of a child or a wedding! My mind makes a big deal out of every social interaction that happens. My mood is like a thermometer. When a social interaction turned out well, I feel happy and exulted. When something bad happens, even from a slight insult or rejection, I can go from 100 to 0.

laure15 said:

I also tend to over****yze things especially social interactions. I replay social situations over and over again in my head right after they happen, it almost feels like an obsession. For instance when someone particularly of the opposite gender says hi to me and I do the same, I replay the event in my head, even though the event is nothing as important as a birth of a child or a wedding! My mind makes a big deal out of every social interaction that happens. My mood is like a thermometer. When a social interaction turned out well, I feel happy and exulted. When something bad happens, even from a slight insult or rejection, I can go from 100 to 0.

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Exactly, it's obsessive and unhealthy. I took conscious note of how often I overthink things - I spend more time worrying about my "social performance" at work than I actually spend there.

I was that way as a teenager. I would work out scenarios with myself as in what to say to any given statement, I'd find the best ones and memorize them. I used to worry about social stuff, now I'm more like "They aren't even on my level so whatever I say will take them a few seconds to grasp the meaning of anyway". I studied body language a long time ago, how to interpret theirs and how to use mine to my advantage and most of that stuff really works. In the link you posted I can totally understand why the girl is possibly over thinking her interactions with Mr. Booty Call, it makes perfect sense to me. And possessing the mind of a man I have my opinions on why he acted the part of the gentleman and then not so much. I'm going the long way around the barn to say that I don't think anybody is crazy for going over their interactions with others over and over in their mind to try to see how they are viewed by others, I'll chalk it up to human nature.