Awkward potential work situation-Need Advice!!

lilmutegirl

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Okay, so, it's been my life's dream to be a librarian. I'm still working on a bachelor's degree (over the course of 12 years), and would need a master's to obtain an actual librarian position. I have been applying at libraries over the years, and haven't gotten so much as a call back till today. I honestly never expected that to happen. The reason this is awkward (besides the obvious--my SA and being uncomfortable in a new situation) is because the guy who called me for the interview (he left a message) just happens to be someone I graduated from high school with. I think I'd feel weird enough around someone who was a stranger, but, we're friends on facebook and could potentially see each other at a reunion or something. One of my friends thinks maybe he recognized my name and it could be an "in" for me. I don't know. Any advice? I should call back today or tomorrow to schedule the interview.
 

ikbenrifi

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All i have to say is : what are you waiting for ? your dream is very probable to become true! gather your confidence and go for it, you're gonna do it !
 

Boby

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Ohh wow... the majority of people will call that an huge luck and they might even consider refusing the offer as madness.
To be honest I don't even understand why you feel awkward about it?Would you rather prefer a stranger that will ask you some very uncomfortable questions?
I think this is a very lucky (maybe one in a life time) opportunity and you should call them back.Also I don't see anything awkward about it,on the contrary.
Go for it or you might regret it later,good luck!
 

Hoppy

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Take the opportunity.

You didn't initiate the contact, he did, so he would like to interview you. Or would you prefer to have it more difficult?
 

lilmutegirl

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Between the responses here, and my texts from friends, the consesus is that I should go and not worry about it. I think I'm freaked out mainly for 2 reasons:
1-He and I have friends/acquaintances in common, and, if the interview goes badly, or I get the job and don't do well, these people could potentially find out, which would make me feel like an even bigger loser.
2-I haven't gotten this far in my career plan (maybe it's been somewhat subconscious) before, and I'm worried that I'll be bad at it, or I'll decide it's not really what I want to do. It's easier to say, "Someday, I'll..." as opposed to, "I am..." for me, at least.
 

O'Killian

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It's easy to see, for me at least, why you'd be worried about it. I'm often worried about bumping into folks I once knew myself. Still, though, contacts are everything and this may be a leg up. Even if it turns out to be something you didn't want to do, it's better to figure that out now, right? And - at least in my experience - things are rarely anywhere near as bad as I feel they'll be.

As others have said, this seems like a very good opportunity - take it and see where it goes.
 

Boby

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1-He and I have friends/acquaintances in common, and, if the interview goes badly, or I get the job and don't do well, these people could potentially find out, which would make me feel like an even bigger loser.
If you ask random people to complain about something I think 90% will complain about their jobs.Why is that?Because almost everyone is having a hard time building a career.It's not something everyone does perfectly ,if it was that easy everyone would be happy,have the perfect job and poverty and criminality will be obsolete,but as you can see it's not what you see in reality.
So no,you are not a loser if you fail at this job and not because I say but because this is the truth.
 

Hoppy

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He and I have friends/acquaintances in common, and, if the interview goes badly, or I get the job and don't do well, these people could potentially find out,

How many of those people are still doing the same job that they did 3 years ago?

And do you think they are losers?
 

lilmutegirl

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How many of those people are still doing the same job that they did 3 years ago?

And do you think they are losers?

I think several of them have had the same jobs/careers for some time. Most of our former classmates are teachers, nurses, lawyers, and doctors, so I don't think they are losers. I am very jealous that they've all had the drive and ambition to reach their goals.
 

psych

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Do you take anything regularly for your anxiety?

If you feel really nervous, you could try taking a small dose of benadryl about twenty minutes before the interview.
It is commonly used as a mild anti-anxiety medication in the field I work in.
Be sure to check drug interactions if necessary.
Just be sure not to overdo it. Falling asleep at your interview probably wouldn't go over well! ;)

Good luck!
 

lilmutegirl

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Update: The interview was this morning and it went pretty well in my opinion. The guy I thought was going to conduct it didn't. I didn't even see him. I should know by early next week if I got the job. I was suprisingly comfortable during the actual interview, but started to second-guess some of my answers after leaving.
 
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O'Killian

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It's good that you went through with it. Best of luck on the results. And try not to worry overmuch about second guesses - hindsight's 20/20, after all.
 

lyricalliaisons

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I really hope you do it and I really hope you get the job. I'm also working towards my bachelors and then my MLIS after that.
 

lilmutegirl

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Second update: The guy I graduated with called and left a message today regarding talking about the interview. I called him back and left a message, so now I'm just waiting for his return call, which I'm assuming will come tomorrow, considering the time. I'm a little more nervous than I was before, since this is starting to seem very real, whereas before, it was something that could possibly happen...sometime...in the future...maybe...
 

Joan6466

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This for all of us to remember:
Always honor what you did do. ( I got there! I didn't talk myself out of it. I wore a nice outfit. I got there on time. I got out of the car)
This is really important anytime we face situations where anxiety rears its ugly head. If we don't conquer this, we could land up doing jobs we don't care about (because I wasn't so anxious about going after it) or dating people we're not attracted to, because we up our anxiety when we face what or whom we're interested in. These are opportunities to recognize and fracture those horrific negative thoughts that lift their ugly heads when we face a situation that we want to try or a person we want to meet.
After honoring what you did- then replay what you will say differently the next time, and say it outloud so it imprints on the brain. Your mood may still stay discouraged or embarrassed, but if you keep at those two processes your mood will not plunge so far down.
Congratulations for doing it!:)
 

bcsr

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Second update: The guy I graduated with called and left a message today regarding talking about the interview. I called him back and left a message, so now I'm just waiting for his return call, which I'm assuming will come tomorrow, considering the time. I'm a little more nervous than I was before, since this is starting to seem very real, whereas before, it was something that could possibly happen...sometime...in the future...maybe...

The fact that you got a call-back after the interview means it went well, so good job on that. Don't worry about being nervous, interviewers expect people to be nervous.
 
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