Asexual

Is anyone here asexual? Just curious.....sometimes I think I am, since other people seem to want to have sex and stuff(most people are whores)...and I just...don't. It doesn't interest me at all. I'm attracted to some people, but sometimes even the thought of kissing people disgusts me(though not always--I've been with some people I enjoy kissing, but others I try to kiss as little as possible because I just dont want to)... so of course the thought of having sex with them doesn't seem too appealing. Is that weird? Am I the only one? 8O Or have I maybe just not found a decent enough person(I don't think one exists) to make me want to do these things? :? Confusing.

I think sometimes it just takes a while to find your sexuality, or the person that makes you feel sexual. Has anything ever put you off sex? I can't offer much advice about asexuals because I've never really been in that position, but hopefully someone will come along and be better help than me lol!


x

yep..i'm asexual mainly because i find other peoples body's discusting. you can never really be sure if someone is completely clean and the thought of mixing those types of germs is discusting. it's always discusted me. :roll:

_______________
http://www.myspace.com/littlel3

Thanks for the replies...I guess nothing has really put me off sex except for people trying to rush me into it. :roll: That's the main thing... if men weren't such assholes and whores and could be more fucking patient, maybe girls like me wouldn't be so screwed up in the head.
Sorry, I'm pissed right now, I just found out a bunch more shit my ex done behind my back that I didn't know about...just makes me wonder seriously how ANYONE can trust ANYONE. People are so horrible. Jesus Christ I wish I was a cat or something.

Jesus Christ I wish I was a cat or something.

Click to expand...

and i thought i was the only one 8O

I am a guy. Therefore, I am not asexual But it's not something I prioritize at all. Usually, it's the last thing I think about (whoever said we think about it every 30 seconds or whatever is pretty much wrong). A smart guy realizes that rushing anyone (well, any female) into sex is a bad idea. I guess some very presumptuous guys might assume that because they're in the mood, their partner will be as well; or that because they're attractive, their partner will automatically want sex. A smarter guy knows that what makes them want sex (aka, certain signs of "fertility"), is not at all what makes females want sex, and they'll instead try to establish a firm emotional connection with their partner instead. This probably sounds pretty basic, and it is, but you should look for guys that genuinely WANT to make those kind of connections, because they should make you feel more open to the idea of sex.

frizboy said:

I am a guy. Therefore, I am not asexual But it's not something I prioritize at all. Usually, it's the last thing I think about (whoever said we think about it every 30 seconds or whatever is pretty much wrong). A smart guy realizes that rushing anyone (well, any female) into sex is a bad idea. I guess some very presumptuous guys might assume that because they're in the mood, their partner will be as well; or that because they're attractive, their partner will automatically want sex. A smarter guy knows that what makes them want sex (aka, certain signs of "fertility"), is not at all what makes females want sex, and they'll instead try to establish a firm emotional connection with their partner instead. This probably sounds pretty basic, and it is, but you should look for guys that genuinely WANT to make those kind of connections, because they should make you feel more open to the idea of sex.

Click to expand...

Sounds like your deceiving yourself. Evolution has made us horny 24/7 because if we weren't nobody would ever be in the mood to have sex and further the species. We think about sex without even realising it. A big part of wanting a relationship is sex appeal. There's a reason why nuns dress like that ya know? Also there is a reason why girls show off their chest and wear short skirts...It isn't to make us think about daisies.

Shhhh..... Thelema! We gotta talk brother! See, no I see what you're saying. But think about the evolutionary perspective of women. What kinds of things do they look for in men? Think about it, and you'll see what my post is getting at.

...

LittleMissScareAll said:

Thanks for the replies...I guess nothing has really put me off sex except for people trying to rush me into it. :roll: That's the main thing... if men weren't such assholes and whores and could be more ****ing patient, maybe girls like me wouldn't be so screwed up in the head.
Sorry, I'm pissed right now, I just found out a bunch more shit my ex done behind my back that I didn't know about...just makes me wonder seriously how ANYONE can trust ANYONE. People are so horrible. Jesus Christ I wish I was a cat or something.

Click to expand...

I feel just like you. The difference is I am a guy which makes it worse. I hope that does not sound bad but guys are expected to think about and talk about sex constantly. People piss me off because they are constantly asking me about this. I am screwed up in the head too, its not just you.

I'm a wannabe asexual, but not actually one, though I certainly care a lot less about sexual stuff than most people.

Thelema said:

Evolution has made us horny 24/7 because if we weren't nobody would ever be in the mood to have sex and further the species.

Click to expand...

Try learning some rudimentary logic so you can say rational things. Not liking something 24/7 does not equal never liking something. There are many evolutionary advantages for species such as humans to not being horny 24/7, and even potentially to having asexual members of a species, just like homosexuality evolved. Take a biology class.

I think 'sex' should be something people keep to themselves. I think I'm too shy to actually want to do it, but kissing is okay.

I'm not "asexual" by any means. All healthy people need sex, especially when they are young.

I find other people's intense interest in the sex lives of others the most off-putting thing about intercourse and physical intimacy. I am not asexual, thus have sexual desires, but the thought of having sex makes me feel primitive, mainly because others put such a public importance on it.

I am in the final year of college, graduating in a couple of days, and since my first day here - which is now approaching being two years ago -- different educational system, college gives me A-levels, I am 19 -, I have been asked time and again whether I had a girlfriend, had ever had sex, had sex regularly, why I am not interested in the women around me, and similar topics. I see the men in my class hitting on women, and see the women responding positively to every sexual shit they are confronted with.

Sometimes I even feel unwilling to talk to women of my age because I know that they aren't in need of another man they think approaches them for a certain reason.

Can you imagine that women at my school allow guys to touch them, often their intimate parts, reacting only with exaggerated giggling? It's not their fault, nor the guys - there seems to be an unspoken agreement among people of my age I haven't agreed to that states that the sole purpose of existence revolves around sexuality and utmost primitiveness and that sexual advances of men towards women are to be reciprocated in a positive fashion.

People even asked me whether I had problems with touching and being touched because I tend to minimize body contact. I just find it natural and normal to respect others' bodies, and feel no need to touch them.

For most classmates I am 'asexual', women don't even see me as a man it appears, and I am slowly beginning to think that there might be some deeper meaning in actually keeping women out of my private life. I like females, usually, just feel sorry for them and I can't change men's way of acting towards them, nor the females' way of reacting. Eventually there is no point at all in dealing with women in any unprofessional way.

I'm not sure if I am asexual because I'd rather look at men and admire whatever quality they have that I like whether its their face, arms...etc, but I never have the desire to have sex with them. Just glancing safely from a hidden distance is enough for me.

Pansexual = Being attracted to someone no matter what gender, sexuality, personality etc. they are. Maybe this describes you? Or when you say you "Find certain people hot", are you' referring only to the opposite sex? ^^;

Hoth said:

I'm a wannabe asexual, but not actually one, though I certainly care a lot less about sexual stuff than most people.



Try learning some rudimentary logic so you can say rational things. Not liking something 24/7 does not equal never liking something. There are many evolutionary advantages for species such as humans to not being horny 24/7, and even potentially to having asexual members of a species, just like homosexuality evolved. Take a biology class.

Click to expand...

I put it badly......2 years ago

Biologically we should have sexual cycles where our urdges diminish and become a lot stronger at certain times, just like every other animal AKA ' being in season'. This corresponds with the perfect time of year/month/life span to have kids, so they aren't born in the middle of the wet season or to a very old mother and therefore have a much smaller chance of surviving or something similar. An example of this is when women drop below a certain BMI, become infertile and can't have periods, as they don't have enough fat/nutrients in their body to sustain a foetus.

Okay, now to sex.

Personally, I don't think I'm asexual, just have no idea at all about what to do in an intimate situation let alone understand how to initiate one! Nor do I really see what's so good about having sex, saliva really disgusts me and after awhile I start to feel very tired for no reason when someone is that close for too long. So I stay pretty far away from those situations mostly. (Unless I'm drunk, in which case low inhibitions destroy most of my anxieties, not too mention stop me thinking and I can actually get quite intimate).

Also, sex wasn't really meant for pleasure or personal gratification but somehow we made it into something more than a means of continuing the human race.

I just like to cuddle and that's about it.

LittleMissScareAll said:

Is anyone here asexual? Just curious.....sometimes I think I am, since other people seem to want to have sex and stuff(most people are whores)...and I just...don't. It doesn't interest me at all. I'm attracted to some people, but sometimes even the thought of kissing people disgusts me(though not always--I've been with some people I enjoy kissing, but others I try to kiss as little as possible because I just dont want to)... so of course the thought of having sex with them doesn't seem too appealing. Is that weird? Am I the only one? 8O Or have I maybe just not found a decent enough person(I don't think one exists) to make me want to do these things? :? Confusing.

Click to expand...

have you ever had sex before?