Anyone think they give off weird "vibes" ???

ld323

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When people approach me to talk I always feel I'm giving off a strong negative "aura" or weird/strange VIBE. It feels so strong that I think I've become the embodiment to my thoughts, therefore actually CAUSE the negativity to happen!! I get confirmation of this when others start to walk away or look uncomfortable. Now I would understand it if I was disfigured in some way, but I don't "think" that I am (fortunately not yet at least).

What the hell kind of sickness is this? My brain is just so programmed for self-destruction that I often feel helpless and out of control. It seems to just want me to fail. To not be liked. To be hated and alone. WTF?!?!? Maybe it's just my karma. Or maybe someone has put a curse on me.

HOW in the world does one obtain an EGO??? Look at people like Clinton or Obama, they have enormous egos, whether it be real or fake. But they have the power to make others believe and like them and look up to them. I wish I had at least 1% of this. I have ZERO ego.
 

recluse

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I do believe i give off a ''weird'' vibe. At times i'm actualy proud of being different but other times i feel as if everyone is looking at me in a negative way, and i wonder what they say about me behind my back.

I think having a big ego is a turn off for most people, from what i gather everyone hates a person with a big ego.
 

dottie

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i relate completely.

i wish i could command respect from people and give off a calm, collected demeanor. but inside i am too overwhelmed with nerves and i implode right in front of people.

i think we still have egos... they just manifest in a different way. but i know exactly what you mean.
 

Andrew

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Yeah people seem to assume that I hate them or am thinking negative things about them. I am extremely unapproachable even though I wished people would approach me and tell me about their problems.
 

Klaus

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Body language and Facial expressions are the cause of the bad vibes.

You can learn to control both.

I'm very good at body language now, but I really need to get better at FACS.
 

Lea

Banned
I feel like I´m offending most people with my mere presence, even though opposite is what I want.
 

Havocan

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The off-putting vibe I send out to other people is that I'm looking strict, cold and somewhat angry. That scares away most, especially girls. In addition people have trouble understanding what I'm saying since I speak a very old-fashioned dialect. Most annoying^^.
 

NormanBates

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I know what you mean. Which is why I like to keep my presence short and sweet. Or give people breaks if I hang out with them. Because eventually, they turn into me.
 

recluse

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I went to a pet store the other day and I'm pretty sure the shop keeper thought I was going to shoplift something because I was pacing around and glancing over at them and must have seemed quite suspicious. and then I bought a stupid 8 dollar cat toy coz I felt guilty, lol


I know the feeling! If i go to a shop with no intention of buying something..Just looking around i feel as if the staff are judging as some kind of shoplifter o'r something. As i walk out through the door i have visions of security coming after me because they think i've shoplifted o'r something.
 

peteswrx

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I know what you mean. Which is why I like to keep my presence short and sweet. Or give people breaks if I hang out with them. Because eventually, they turn into me.

+1 on keeping presence short and sweet. the only probelem i have with that is that i never really connect with anybody that way.
 

Off The Wall

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Omg i was totally thinking that the other day, gosh i'm always thinking how am i suppose to be positive with all these negative people around me. And then its like crap i've turned them into me. All my friends i had from school.. i turned them into me..i made them shy and have low self-eestem.. one of my friends moved schools and within 2weeks she was happy and confident! I turned heaps of my friends in to massive drinkers, well i guess at the end of the day no one can "MAKE" you right?... But still it feels like people arn't suppose to hang around me i have so much negativeness in me that it just attatches itself to everyone near me...

stay way people!

haha.
 

ld323

Active member
Anyone have experience with street drugs like pot or acid? I used to smoke alot of weed back in the day; but haven't touched it since '01. And in my teenage years I did LSD many times (way back 15 years ago). Sometimes I think these drugs might have made my condition worse. I don't think they 'created' it though- because one of the reasons I started drinking and drugging was because of the social anxiety.

I always noticed that when I was stoned I used to THINK waaay too much. I would sit there with everyone and ponder every little detail of everything going on. Usually my mind would drift towards the negative. Like I would focus on someone in the room and think really intense negative thoughts about them, for no apparent reason. It was like S.A. on steroids!!! Of course this is one of the main reasons I don't do hallucinogenic/psychedelic type of drugs anymore (even though they provided me with acute euphoric effects).
 

ld323

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Actually I can't use alcohol for this purpose because it makes my face a deep bright shade of RED, which just exacerbates the SA. My facial skin easily turns red from sun, heat, laughing, eating spicy foods, but most especially from alcoholic drinks (also embarrassment and nervousness). I pretty much don't drink in public anymore because it just makes me look like a total blushing red faced moron.

I guess I just need to figure out how to trick my mind into not being uncomfortable around people and thinking more positive thoughts. I tried meditation awhile back but didn't really discipline myself at it. I'm also experimenting with NLP and would also like to try biofeedback.
 

NormanBates

Well-known member
Well, depressants on your nervous system work well enough.

If someone chooses to point out your red face, use that as an excuse to have a heated altercation. (Especially if you know something embaressing about them)

Altercations are fun. Getting the cold hard truth out is fun when there's some adrenaline behind it.

*has mental picture of every drunk I've ever known*
 

ld323

Active member
I used to use anger as a means of lashing out when I felt slighted, but not so much anymore. I've realized over the years that it has actually destroyed some relationships so bad it's made me sick with regret.

I've just got a really deep seated problem that's going to take a friggin massive amount of therapy. OR on the other side of that logic, maybe it's something that can be "cured" within minutes/seconds- assuming the right thing is used. I would imagine that 100 years from now there will be some type of easy treatment for bizarre mental problems like this.

Another answer is that it's my KARMA, based on some really f*cked up stuff I did to others in a past life. Social isolation is my punishment.
 

Errordotocx

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I believe I often give off weird vibes to people as well because i'm such a shy person. Although there are times where I becoming outgoing. I then draw back into being shy again and I don't think people understand. I believe I seem non approachable. My friends tell me I look like I wanna fight someone all the time, which isn't completely untrue. I'm not exactly happy all the time...but i'm far from wanting to fight someone. Other than that my co-workers at Target used to ask me if everything was alright because I guess I had some kind of scared afraid look on my face every time I needed to ask them a question.
 

suiSide

New member
Hey guys I see that this is a very old post but I have been searching the net for so long looking for something relating to this exact problem I have and just found one,im very bittersweet to have found out that there are more ppl out there that has the same "problem"(I think its a mental disorder not diagnosed yet) as I do.But newayz I feel like I give off a weird vibe CONSTANTLY! Not just in public but even when im laying in bed with my girlfriend or even talking to my own mother....it started like 5 or 6 years ago and hasn't stopped or "mellowed" out in any way at ALL and its keeping me from getting a job and keeping and/or making friends,everybody I tell this to doesn't believe me and thinks its all in my head,but ive seen ppls reaction to me and have even had a couple ppl tell me that they sense a very strange vibe from me ::(:, I feel seriously like someo0ne has put a strange curse on me or something,but sometimes I think its from the Corocidins(DXM) I used to do when I was a teenager,but either way its driving me beyond insain and cannot seem to keep a relationship with ppl(mostly cuz I dont have a job).But now I have severe anxiety cuz of it and have no idea what to do anymore...If anybody can help or just feels the same way, PLEASE reply to this....I hope n pray that this is atleast a disorder not yet diagnosed(or is and I just dont know),because I dont know what to do anymore and im getting to the end of my rope with this INSAIN problem.Please somebody help me if you can,thank you.
 

Krista

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When people approach me to talk I always feel I'm giving off a strong negative "aura" or weird/strange VIBE. It feels so strong that I think I've become the embodiment to my thoughts, therefore actually CAUSE the negativity to happen!! I get confirmation of this when others start to walk away or look uncomfortable. Now I would understand it if I was disfigured in some way, but I don't "think" that I am (fortunately not yet at least).

What the hell kind of sickness is this? My brain is just so programmed for self-destruction that I often feel helpless and out of control. It seems to just want me to fail. To not be liked. To be hated and alone. WTF?!?!? Maybe it's just my karma. Or maybe someone has put a curse on me.

HOW in the world does one obtain an EGO??? Look at people like Clinton or Obama, they have enormous egos, whether it be real or fake. But they have the power to make others believe and like them and look up to them. I wish I had at least 1% of this. I have ZERO ego.

No, I fear that I'm coming off as strange to the point where my demeanor apparently changes and I can then tell that I've put that person off. In worrying about it I've actually became what I'm trying to prevent, it does indeed suck. I don't think it's karma, just merely us in our heads so much, doubt and uncomfortable with the situation that people can tell by the way you move, facial expressions. Not something we can help but something we can learn to control.

As for ego though, Obama, Clinton, Kennedy. These are not men with egos but merely charisma and confidence. When you have pride in yourself and the things you do it shows a great deal. I always respect people who are (you can tell) odd by nature, unconventional, a misfit and have the confidence and swagger of the most up there people. To walk around without a worry of what people think about you, to be proud of who you are and know that others opinions don't matter in the least, I only wish I could have an ounce of the self confidence that they've got.
 
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You know sometimes I have wondered the same about myself.
If I do not simile then naturally I look like a serious person, I would even dare to
say maybe people think I am a snob because when somebody
is talking to me I really concentrate on what they are saying looking concentrated.

I have given up on it now. If I make people uncomfortable then you know what, that is their problem.
I am not bad and would call myself a descent person.
 
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