Anyone feel a little down after a social event but was never ever made fun of?

sevenroses

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Anyone feel a little down after a social event but was never ever made fun of? I sometimes feel that way. It's just emotionally draining.
 

Jessica7

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I alwaysss get jealous at parties when I see everyone dancing around and having fun and I'm just standing in the corner like a weirdo :cool:
 
This is a huge problem for me. I am sure that I preceive things that aren't real. Like silly stuff. I'll think all week about one little thing I said at the punch bowl to someone I will never even see again...You're right, it is emotionally draining.
 

benno

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Same here, after such social events I always feel like it was a complete failure and that I did everything wrong. And then the analysing starts...
 

Quiet Angel

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I automatically assume I'm doing something wrong in social events. My mind is frantically racing with false beliefs... It doesn't help that I'm a huge perfectionist about everything. I get drained after the first few minutes. Why are our minds so evil & clever?
 
I'm usually too relieved to be out of there to feel anything at all.. But during the recap that night, or the next day however I usually feel a bit ashamed about things I might have been able to handle better.
 

*eMmCaM*

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Anyone feel a little down after a social event but was never ever made fun of? I sometimes feel that way. It's just emotionally draining.

i have 2 agree with yu 100% it does drain you!!!!! i use 2 go to parties_n let the anxiety kill me but now i always look like the party pooper wen i tell my friends no thanks because i rather feel a little down and really relieved>then at a party>going nuts!!!!! I HATE IT!!!!!!! socail phobia&anxiety is my down fall!!!!!!:(
 

Agon

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I've always wanted to have a lot of friends, but I can never socialize at parties and I end up sitting in the car afterwards sulking.

There are some people who get drained by too much contact with others, so maybe you're one of them. Or maybe you're like me and we expect too much from ourselves to actually enjoy the event.
 

Feathers

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It depends.

Try not drinking or not eating sweets and see if you feel any better next day! (I do! :)) Sometimes it's the food we eat or the alcohol - especially if you are more sensitive to these things!
(And yeah non-SA people can have hangover too! :D)

(Or if you do eat the sweets and take in alco, make sure to eat proper! Ideally some protein..)

Just congratulate yourself for even 'getting out there'!! (That's what I sometimes did too! :))

Yeah, it sucks a bit to over-analyze, on the other hand you can see ways for improvement that way!

If you find just one or two people you can talk to, or have talked with, it can be termed a 'success'!!

About expecting too much - that's definitely a factor - it helps to just expect to be 'miserable' and just 'get yourself out there'.. and just name it perhaps 'learning to party' ... for some people it may come naturally (or they fake it really well or use alco or other substances to help..) others may need more 'practice'...
 

IGotSeoul

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Large social events are always very tiring. I have a bad habit of noticing details in the smallest of things. I'm also very sensitive to how people feel and pick up on energy and emotions. So when clustered with 50+ people that I barely know with expectations of being socially communicative, I'm often drained quickly.

I can manage social events with 2-3 people that I'm comfortable with. Though when I return home, I'll still need time to "recharge".
 

sanitariumcalls

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If its a small event, sometimes I can handle it ok.

But anything over like, 8 people, I usually need a nap afterwards... it takes so much to participate socially. Family gatherings... bleh. F that noise... fake smiles and all...

In school, thank God I sit in the back in class... if I sat up front I think I'd get sick
 

LazyHermitCrab

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the feeling of leaving is great :) if there's a few hours left in the social event i just want to bang my head on something
 

Rodney

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Yes. When you feel like you don't belong and you don't know how to interact with others it is hard not to feel down. Not to mention the paranoid thoughts that everyone is talking about you. When you hear a couple of key words like: loser, lame, look, wow, people laughing, etc. you can't help but think they are talking about you even if you only caught one word of the conversation!!!
 
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