Any teeange SA'ers......

BornAgain

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Are there any teenagers here that used to be "normal" and then all of a suddden they developed SA? How about any teens who think the cause of they're SA is because of drug use? If so, how has it changed your social/family life?
 

Y

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I used to be a teenager, does it count? lol

Im 22 now and yeah i developed mine when i was 17 and i was only shy until then but i was kinda popular at school, had many friends, then some things started going down in my life and within a year, i became a social phobic.
 

DYiNG-iNSiDE

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im 15 my SA started i think when i was about 13 i dont know what started it because i was never like this mabye it was moving so much but yah ive heard alot of ppl saying drugs caused their SA all i do is pills and weed just on the wkends and i think it has added 2 it some but idk
 

red_reagel

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I'm 16, and got shy when I was 8 years old, but never really got SA until jr. high. Elementary I had some friends, but in Jr. High things got worst. I was never considered "normal" by my family or classmates.
 

BornAgain

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Y said:
I used to be a teenager, does it count? lol

Im 22 now and yeah i developed mine when i was 17 and i was only shy until then but i was kinda popular at school, had many friends, then some things started going down in my life and within a year, i became a social phobic.

I can sorta relate to you because i was kinda popular as well, and I had many friends, but i was never shy. I hope my SA doesnt last till im 22, i would probably kill myself before that if it lasted that long. I really cant stand this disease or whatever it is. Do you (or anyone else reading) fear eye-contact or feel really uncomfortable when it happens? That is the root of my SA and if i could fix that, i would consider myself cured. If you ever had this eye contact thing, did it ever go away or at least get better?
 

yay

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Developed SA in the 7th grade, and junior year( which is now) more than half way recovered ;)
What caused my SA=> family, friends, classmates, grades, and strangers o_O
 

BornAgain

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LibertadIlusoria said:
I'm 17, but I've always had SA. I can't even imagine what it would like to be normal...

that sucks that youve always had SA. Have you ever sought treatment? I couldnt stand having SA all my life, but I think I hate it so much because I used to not have it fairly recently. How do you cope with it? I don't know whats worse, having always had SA, or having an active social life then developing SA (as in my case). Is it better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all, I don't know. Did you ever have that eye contact thing?
 

Y

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BornAgain said:
LibertadIlusoria said:
I'm 17, but I've always had SA. I can't even imagine what it would like to be normal...

that sucks that youve always had SA. Have you ever sought treatment? I couldnt stand having SA all my life, but I think I hate it so much because I used to not have it fairly recently. How do you cope with it? I don't know whats worse, having always had SA, or having an active social life then developing SA (as in my case). Is it better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all, I don't know. Did you ever have that eye contact thing?

Hmm... Looks like someone has a hard time accepting the situation...
 

asdf

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i was never that outgoing, but was popular at school until sophmore year. i had girlfriends, many other girls that were interested in me, lots of friends. then all of hte sudden sophmore year i woudl feel uncomfortable talking to people i didn't know well. from then on its been hell. i dont really understand what changed my personality but i want it to stop.
 

asdf

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i was never that outgoing, but was popular at school until sophmore year. i had girlfriends, many other girls that were interested in me, lots of friends. then all of hte sudden sophmore year i woudl feel uncomfortable talking to people i didn't know well. from then on its been hell. i dont really understand what changed my personality but i want it to stop.
 

red_reagel

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Doesn't it seem like you're the only one when you look around? nobody in this freakin' state even looks remotely social phobic like me!
 

lacnail

Banned
I'm 17--I remember not having SA in kindergarten(5). I was quite social back then and often laughed and stuff with the other kids. However, after we moved I was thrown off. We kept moving about twice a year til until I was about 13 then we settled down for about a year and 1/2. I began taking Paxil then and I made quite a group of friends. Not popular, but not feeling lonely or isolated.

We moved again and no I'm having some of the same trouble. I stopped taking paxil quite a while ago--about 3 years ago. I was thinking about taking it again, but thought perhaps it would be best to try to sort it out within myself
 

LibertadIlusoria

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BornAgain said:
LibertadIlusoria said:
I'm 17, but I've always had SA. I can't even imagine what it would like to be normal...

that sucks that youve always had SA. Have you ever sought treatment? I couldnt stand having SA all my life, but I think I hate it so much because I used to not have it fairly recently. How do you cope with it? I don't know whats worse, having always had SA, or having an active social life then developing SA (as in my case). Is it better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all, I don't know. Did you ever have that eye contact thing?
No, I've never sought treatment. I haven't even told my parents about it. I just live one day to the next, never changing, never really living, until eventually I realized that I've already wasted 17 years of my life that I will never get back. That realization hasn't changed anything, however. One day I will wake up alone and realize that 20, 30, 50 years have passed, and my life has been a complete waste...
 

Higolo

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I'm 17 next month.I don't know if i was normal, per se.. but i was at one point able to stand up and read to the class when i was 7/8.

The (SAD) problems only really started after we moved to this area (mum's mental state deteriorated fast soon after).

Edit: Removed rubbish emoticon. Thank you.
 

Chrysta

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I'm 15 and I was pretty normal when I was 11 or 12-ish. I had more anxiety than anyone I knew in my school but I was still basically like everyone else. Then it's time to leave the school I was at for seven years, to a bigger one. I couldn't take the school, the teachers, or the people, I lost both of my friends, went to a different school that was easier but I still hated it. Then I started independant study which is basically like homeschooling. I was totally isolated, which my dad hated and constantly made comment on. I suffered for about a year before I couldn't take it anymore and told my mom. Then my sister got cancer and we all had a huge ordeal to face. I got on Paxil and it didn't work. Then I was on Lexapro and that worked ok and now I just switched to Prozak to see if that works better. I have had two shrinks so far and I hated them both but they're aren't many shrinks around my area that take anyone under 18. Sometimes I feel good about where I am and then sometimes I feel like I have gotten nowhere and that I have so much to do and because I am not out with the rest of my peers in school or anything else that I will feel completely out of place when I can get into the world. I was talking to an old friend of mine the other day, he couldn't believe when I told him that I have never done anything with a guy before. Then he said find an older guy.. but that means he will expect more of me sexually. But the first guy I will date will be the first guy that I have been around, hugged, touched, kissed, or anything with and I need to take it slow. I feel like everyone around me will think there is something wrong with me because I haven't done what they have. They will make me feel stupid and naive and childish and I can't stand that. I hate not knowing what to expect when I get older. But all I know is that I am not going to let my SP control me. I will do what I can to feel that best I can and do the best I can. I will not let this make me into what everyone may think I am.
 

of_darkness

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i'm 17, i used to be normal untill about the age of 12, when all of my friends went into different classes and i was left with about 2 peple i just about liked, with a whole load of idiots i would never dream aout socialising with.
So i just ...fell apart and have been getting slightly better recently, but i'm still so quiet, i hardly socialise, abd if i do its when i'm asked to go somewhere. I never actually ask anyone myself..
 

BornAgain

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like a christmas miracle, my SA practiacally completely dissappeared! :lol: I can now make eye contact, have conversations, and i feel my old self coming back! pheeeew, what a relief! Anyone else have this happent o them?
 
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