Any one else have a crippling fear of nakedness?

Slytherin88

Slytherin88

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I'd love to have a relationship, not serious like marriage and kids, but someone to have fun with and yeah, sex.. But anxiety and all that shiz gets in the road. Just thinking about having to be naked with someone is crippling, and there's nothing I can do (except surgery) that would change anything.
What can we do? Anyone else feel the same?
 
NathanielWingatePeaslee

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S_Spartan

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Slytherin88 said:
I'd love to have a relationship, not serious like marriage and kids, but someone to have fun with and yeah, sex.. But anxiety and all that shiz gets in the road. Just thinking about having to be naked with someone is crippling, and there's nothing I can do (except surgery) that would change anything.
What can we do? Anyone else feel the same?
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Well if the other person is naked also doesn't that help some?
Maybe you are being too hard on yourself.
 
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PerseverareJasmine

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The idea of sex makes me really curious and excited, but at the same time, I do get nervous thinking about being naked with a guy. Letting him see every detail of my naked body seems like it would be very nerve-wracking. If the guy is understanding though, I think the nervousness would fade away. I think in the heat of the moment, the anxiety might be reduced.
 
Psychedelicious

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A lot of the times I do. I hate my body, and darkness definitely does not hide everything. It's still better than being seen in the bright light though!
 
MikeyC

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You might find that your partner will have a similar anxious feeling about being naked, Slytherin. There's nowhere to hide when you have to bare all your bits. :giggle:

But by the time it gets to you having sex with a girl, you both will have known each other enough to be comfortable. :)
 
BlueDays

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NathanielWingatePeaslee said:
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^Would a man agree to having sex with the light off though?
Aren't men "visually" orientated and would be turned off by someone requesting the light be turned off?
I am really curious about this, because I did not think that a guy would agree to sex with the light turned off? :idontknow:


To the OP, unless you are a model and workout daily, most people have insecurities about being seen naked. All you can do is rely on finding someone who will love you with and without your clothes. :thumbup:
 
MikeyC

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BlueDays said:
^Would a man agree to having sex with the light off though?
Aren't men "visually" orientated and would be turned off by someone requesting the light be turned off?
I am really curious about this, because I did not think that a guy would agree to sex with the light turned off? :idontknow:
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I may be the wrong guy to answer this, but while men are keen on visuals, our eyes can adjust to darkness. Unless you're in a sub-basement or something, natural light and stuff will still make the girl visible. And even not, we can always use touch. :) As can the girls, too.
 
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jc972

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BlueDays said:
^Would a man agree to having sex with the light off though?
Aren't men "visually" orientated and would be turned off by someone requesting the light be turned off?
I am really curious about this, because I did not think that a guy would agree to sex with the light turned off? :idontknow:
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Why yes we would. The sense of feeling a woman we're attracted to means a lot weather we can see her or not. Unless, theoretically said woman has a twin sister that trades places with her in the dark. If they're identical twins it wouldn't be cheating though would it, they are identical after all ;) dark or not, pleasure senses still work and the passion ( lust? ) Is still there.
 
BlueDays

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MikeyC said:
I may be the wrong guy to answer this, but while men are keen on visuals, our eyes can adjust to darkness. Unless you're in a sub-basement or something, natural light and stuff will still make the girl visible. And even not, we can always use touch. :) As can the girls, too.
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jc972 said:
Why yes we would. The sense of feeling a woman we're attracted to means a lot weather we can see her or not. Unless, theoretically said woman has a twin sister that trades places with her in the dark. If they're identical twins it wouldn't be cheating though would it, they are identical after all ;) dark or not, pleasure senses still work and the passion ( lust? ) Is still there.
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^Well that is interesting. Thanks for your input guys.:)
 
NathanielWingatePeaslee

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BlueDays said:
^Would a man agree to having sex with the light off though?
Aren't men "visually" orientated and would be turned off by someone requesting the light be turned off?
I am really curious about this, because I did not think that a guy would agree to sex with the light turned off? :idontknow:


To the OP, unless you are a model and workout daily, most people have insecurities about being seen naked. All you can do is rely on finding someone who will love you with and without your clothes. :thumbup:
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I have never heard of any case where a guy would not agree to have sex unless lights were on. Making such a request would be iffy, and depend on knowing the girl is okay with it. Making such a demand is going into douchebag territory. Especially if you know the girl is insecure about her body (and do girls even exist that aren't? perhaps a very few).

Men are generally more visual than women when it comes to getting our attention sexually, but once you've got a guys attention (like say, you're already dating, or...your hand is on his thigh under the table at the bar) further visual stimulus is generally not required.
 
BlueDays

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NathanielWingatePeaslee said:
I have never heard of any case where a guy would not agree to have sex unless lights were on. Making such a request would be iffy, and depend on knowing the girl is okay with it. Making such a demand is going into douchebag territory. Especially if you know the girl is insecure about her body (and do girls even exist that aren't? perhaps a very few).

Men are generally more visual than women when it comes to getting our attention sexually, but once you've got a guys attention (like say, you're already dating, or...your hand is on his thigh under the table at the bar) further visual stimulus is generally not required.
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^ Ok then. Well reading these replies is a relief I must say.:)
I have been given wrong information then. Good to know!:thumbup:
Thank you for your input, Nate.:)


To the OP, sorry if my question has distracted from your thead, I will shut up now, lol :D
 
Helmaninquiel

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I have a boyfriend at the moment and its getting better to be around him naked but I've been with him for a year now and we have had plenty of sex.. at first I'd avoid it, any little thing I could do to cover myself up I would lol but just last week I took my top off in front of him and he had a positive reaction. It's just insecurity, if the person didn't like you he wouldn't be with you, even if its only your personality he's attracted to that has a big role to play physically and we as people always make us out to be way worse than we actually are.
 
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FountainandFairfax

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Nakedness really is scary. I think it's probably that way, at least a little bit, for most people, let alone introverted, socially-anxious types. On the subject of lights, I've always had to have them off, I couldn't lose myself otherwise. I'd be waaaay too self-conscious and mechanical with them on.
 
S_Spartan

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Nakedness doesn't bother me much. I can be naked in the gym locker room and not really care.

I have never felt bad about being naked in front of a woman and I wasn't always in great shape during those situations.

In fact, it's clothes I hate now. Wearing big bulky clothes for months in the north. Washing them, drying them, folding them, storing them, fighting with them.

How much simpler would be to live someplace warm and go around naked! (If that kind of thing was legal..haha)
 
Sea Bass

Sea Bass

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Nakedness for me is a big fear too. I guess the insecurity goes away after you have sex with a partner a coupled times and both parties involved get comfortable with the deed of sex.

I guess being afraid of not being accepted sexually is a fear that can be worked on. Just try to change your mindset and not compare yourself to other people so much. You have to remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Not everyone is going to be into the same thing so try not to take rejection too seriously. What one person might find attractive, another person will not - and that's ok. You just need to find someone that is into you and you will.
 
MollyBeGood

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I am ok with being naked :) Nothing wrong with it, I actually prefer it over clothing too Spartan haha Is the nudist colony calling us?
 
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