Any one else enraged by people staring at you?

mndigi

Well-known member
This must be very common amongst us socialphobics. I sometimes feel/find people staring at me in a judgmental or mocking manner. This obviously angers me to no end. I feel like whacking their faces off and teaching them a lesson which their parents didn't - not to stare at people!

If you feel similarly please share.
 

mikestar

Banned
hate it, get so angry I feel like smacking them. They think there so special and your a piece of shit. It started a few years ago when I had my first full time job and its stuck with me to this day....

Now,when im out and about I try to say f*** em and stare at them back for longer make them feel intimated like I was.
 

Illusions

Well-known member
Oh yeah, I get REALLY annoyed by that. Usually I just maintain eye contact while trying to give off the "what are YOU looking at?' vibe. I always think to myself, "f##k them".
 

NormanBates

Well-known member
I remember seeing on a documentary that one of the earliest reflexes humans develop is to automatically follow with eyes anything that passes into the field of vision.
So yeah any time that you may pass into someone's periphery, people might just stare because it's a reflex.
And in some cultures there is such a thing as an "avoidance relationship" where averting eye contact is considered respectful.
But yeah I know what you mean ...
 
Yeah I relate. Its not that they know you have SA, they just have a staring problem in general. I usually give people like this a mean look like I am gonna hurt them. Or I stare at them like they are a piece of trash.
 

Slothrop

Well-known member
I don't recall that ever happening. If it ever has, it was only in rare circumstances not indicative of a pattern.

Sure, I've felt like people were staring and judging plenty of times, but it is has never turned out to actually be the case. I don't understand how so many seem to know they're being judged or mocked by a person without ever communicating with them. It's as if they can read minds, but of course we know that's impossible.
 
yeah people did used to do that and it pissed me off big time!! or when i'm was walkin down the road andd people coming towards you would stare at you that always ways was the worst for me cause it felt like the could see right into me and i hated that, but now its no bother i have overcome this, and i stare right back, **** it why should some nobody get me feelin like that, and if the wanna make something of it then i say bring it on!!!!
 

NormanBates

Well-known member
I get such awful headaches from being so particular about where my eyes land. I'm sure I look like one of those shifty eyed guys. But one day, I shall let my eyes plow on through.
 

Quiet Angel

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I especially dislike those situations when it feels as though they're endlessly staring. You look away, look back, etc. etc. and they still continue with their staring. As though they're completely analyzing you. Even when it's for a few seconds, I feel this way.
 

mimi1988

Well-known member
No, I don't really get angry about it. I'll just go home and think, "I wonder why that girl (or guy) was staring at me like that. Was I walking or looking funny?" lol... No one really likes to be stared at. Well, unless they're being stared down by a fine man (or woman) lol. I know I have a bad habit of staring at ppl. But I'm not necessarily laughing at the person. I stare at ppl for all sorts of reasons. It may be something I admire about their personality. I may like their outfit. But I do it mostly because I just love observing people.
 

Noca

Banned
I dont care who I look at anymore thanks to CBT and if someone stares at me I'll just stare them down till they look away ;)
 

dottie

Well-known member
i totally agree it is SO RUDE.

a few weeks ago was at an 8th grade graduation and wasn't in a particularly good mood but no big deal. well upon entering these 3 ghetto middle school girls were sitting, watching everyone come in. one was not just looking but STARING. there is a difference between an innocent glance and blatant staring. so i gave a dirty eyeroll look to her instead of saying DON'T STARE like i wanted to. she said "uuuuugh" at me as i passed her. i really wanted to beat the shit out of her. rude little bitch.

don't stare. it is invasive and totally rude.
 

mndigi

Well-known member
I realize that some or even most of our anger is from a feeling of inferiority and a resultant over-sensitivity to incidents around us. But it nonetheless makes one angry and reluctant to go out the next time. Oh well, can't do any thing about it and shouldn't do any thing about it (because we don't have concrete proof about others being rude to us). So practically speaking we should just go on with our lives.
 

mndigi

Well-known member
It's happening more and more nowadays. People stare at me with their heads turned, as if I am a freak put on display on the road. I cut my hair very short like buzz cut since it's gotten very hot here and I dislike long hair. But since my face is chubby as it is, maybe it's looking chubbier with the short hair cut. And people stare at me angering me. I remember the time when I was 14, when my life was just 1 year short of derailing like a crashed train. It used to feel just like this. I used to hate people staring at me.

Sorry for the rant. But this is the only place I can share my frustrations with real people.

Thank you.

Oh, by the way, the way I will cope with it is "not caring about it and doing whatever I am doing at the moment" as my therapist has advised me. Thought I should share for the benefit of others. Besides, if I have to survive and have a decent quality of life, I should do what all animals on this planet do - work/look for food. Shouldn't hide in a hole.
 
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Danfalc

Banned
I have a big problem with this..ive learnt a long time ago there is a big difference between a casual nosey glance and someone staring at you.You get (mainly guys from 17-30) who try and stare you down all the time round here and it does my head in.

I get paranoid enough about it as it is so I do loose it when someone is really staring at me ::eek::
 

Nicholas

Well-known member
I still have to understand why people stare at me. If they stare at you, it must mean they are "checking you out", they are interested in something about you. So if someone stares at you, it could be because you look like someone they know, you are beautiful, you are very ugly, you have nice hair, you have an awful haircut, you look weird, you are very muscular and they are a body building enthusiast, you have a weird voice, you just did something unusual, you have a fluorescent shirt that caught their attention... and so on. A million reasons, but there is always one. Figuring it out is impossible, I'm afraid. It varies from person to person. Unfortunately I realized that too many people, at least in certain places, just check you out and look at your shoes, clothes, hair, just to see if you are fashionable enough. Fuk em.
 
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ZoundWave

Member
It bothers me a lot...but what's even more frustrating is having people pity you. Then I really do want to smack them in their faces.
 
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