anxiety attack (cause: bf)

3times

Well-known member
i just had an anxiety attack just thinking about talking my bf or anyone else for that matter. because ppl say he is abusive but idk.i cant really talk to him bf about it because he'll just freak and get mad. sigh how fun right. i want to be with him but idk. i just having an anxiety attack should be a sign there. how can i talk to him???????????? or can anyone tell me any tell tell signs that its controling or abusive so i can check off my invisible list.
 

3times

Well-known member
dumb question: i bruise really ez like if i bump into something hit something if my bf grabs me (or pushes) or even if i just play around with friends. i take iron pills but i stopped cuz they suck and i think i may choke on them and get an anxiety attack. is there any foods or something i can do to stop brusing ao ez i even wake up with brusies?????????????
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
If he treats you badly, maybe the best for you will be to leave him.. If he is agressive, I don't think hes going to stop. =/ There's plenty of other guys who would treat you much better. You deserve better.
 

Noca

Banned
I will never understand why someone will stay in a relationship with an abusive partner.
 

3times

Well-known member
Maybe you guys are right. But its ok. Cuz he just acts dumb.

But I usually get anxiety attacks at night.
 

Plissken

Active member
Speaking from experience, yes. My sister had a boyfriend that would manipulate her and treat her like crap, he never really hit her or anything. Everyone around her knew what a creep he was, but she was blind to it until he did finally beat her up and threaten her with a gun.

I'm just saying, you might not see it, but if people around you think he's abusive, you'd do well to listen to them. I can't say for you to just break up with him because I don't really know the situation but at least think a lot about it. It's not the end of the world if you do leave him. Don't be afraid to go to your family and friends if you need help or advice, they can give it to you better than anyone here.
 

3times

Well-known member
Mmm well he talked to me. I say him cuz he turned it all on me. He yelled threatened told me I should b trained and taught. We argued about so much that I was confused. He cursed out my best friend and I told him to say sorry. And he said it when I stared to cry. But anyways he told me he lied when he said it and I was angry. And he was basically like oh well I don't care about her. And he told me too shut up. Did I tell u that he attacked his sister 3 times and two while she was pregnant. He slammed her/head n2 the wall and everything dragged her. Everything. He has an anger problem it seems. Some things he says b4: "f u" "ur stupid" "ill beat the. Blah blah out of u/chock/kick/hit" "ill die w/out u"he says it all. The only times he made bruises were when he pinched me and when he grabbed me. He choked me once but that had reason I guess. Hm guess everythings for a reason. But I think mybe his father or grand father may have had problems like his too. (He lives with his grandmother) I think he likes to argue in public too. Like to show off or prove that hea a man. IdkHe told me he'll treat me better though today. But he says he can't stop the smoking/drinking though. Soooo the talking thing didn't work. I saw him the day after we go into it. And I haven't really seen him for like a few days cuz the bruise on my arm is still there and he scared me a little cuz I haven't seen em that mad in a while. And I didn't feel like seeing him break/thow anything. So ill he him later. *
 

Nack

Banned
Mmm well he talked to me. I say him cuz he turned it all on me. He yelled threatened told me I should b trained and taught. We argued about so much that I was confused. He cursed out my best friend and I told him to say sorry. And he said it when I stared to cry. But anyways he told me he lied when he said it and I was angry. And he was basically like oh well I don't care about her. And he told me too shut up. Did I tell u that he attacked his sister 3 times and two while she was pregnant. He slammed her/head n2 the wall and everything dragged her. Everything. He has an anger problem it seems. Some things he says b4: "f u" "ur stupid" "ill beat the. Blah blah out of u/chock/kick/hit" "ill die w/out u"he says it all. The only times he made bruises were when he pinched me and when he grabbed me. He choked me once but that had reason I guess. Hm guess everythings for a reason. But I think mybe his father or grand father may have had problems like his too. (He lives with his grandmother) I think he likes to argue in public too. Like to show off or prove that hea a man. IdkHe told me he'll treat me better though today. But he says he can't stop the smoking/drinking though. Soooo the talking thing didn't work. I saw him the day after we go into it. And I haven't really seen him for like a few days cuz the bruise on my arm is still there and he scared me a little cuz I haven't seen em that mad in a while. And I didn't feel like seeing him break/thow anything. So ill he him later. *

GTFAWAY from him, he's bad and you know it! Dump his ass over the phone or some safe place, thank god you're not married to that basterd. The longer you stay with him, the harder it is to break it off. You life is in danger. Trust me my brother is the same thing, he's got issue and threaten to kill me a couple times... I can kind've relate.

I know its an anxious thing to do, you don't know what he'll do. But, it have to be done!!!
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
Mmm well he talked to me. I say him cuz he turned it all on me. He yelled threatened told me I should b trained and taught. We argued about so much that I was confused. He cursed out my best friend and I told him to say sorry. And he said it when I stared to cry. But anyways he told me he lied when he said it and I was angry. And he was basically like oh well I don't care about her. And he told me too shut up. Did I tell u that he attacked his sister 3 times and two while she was pregnant. He slammed her/head n2 the wall and everything dragged her. Everything. He has an anger problem it seems. Some things he says b4: "f u" "ur stupid" "ill beat the. Blah blah out of u/chock/kick/hit" "ill die w/out u"he says it all. The only times he made bruises were when he pinched me and when he grabbed me. He choked me once but that had reason I guess. Hm guess everythings for a reason. But I think mybe his father or grand father may have had problems like his too. (He lives with his grandmother) I think he likes to argue in public too. Like to show off or prove that hea a man. IdkHe told me he'll treat me better though today. But he says he can't stop the smoking/drinking though. Soooo the talking thing didn't work. I saw him the day after we go into it. And I haven't really seen him for like a few days cuz the bruise on my arm is still there and he scared me a little cuz I haven't seen em that mad in a while. And I didn't feel like seeing him break/thow anything. So ill he him later. *

Leave that bastard. Serioulsy, people like that never NEVER change, no matter how many times they apologize and promise not to do it again, they never keep their promises. And such agressive behavior has NO justification at all. No one has the right to treat you like that. What this guy is doing is ABUSE. Trust me and don't go back with him, he's dangerous.
 
Definetely think u should get out. Jus look at all those talk shows like maury and steve wilkos. That guy has nothing good to offer you, and no one should have to take any physical abuse
 

3times

Well-known member
Hm thank you guys for all this really.

I think its the drinking though that causes all this. Well he still acts crazy even when he isn't but not as bad I guess. We were on the fone again. I think he had 1 two many. He told me I should just b a prostitute. Not sure y. I guess cuz I hung out with my friend or had a dress on the other day. *sigh* I'm just tired. Drained. He's so jealous for no reason too.

Maybe if I just shut up and agree he'd calm himself.
 

Nack

Banned
Hm thank you guys for all this really.

I think its the drinking though that causes all this. Well he still acts crazy even when he isn't but not as bad I guess. We were on the fone again. I think he had 1 two many. He told me I should just b a prostitute. Not sure y. I guess cuz I hung out with my friend or had a dress on the other day. *sigh* I'm just tired. Drained. He's so jealous for no reason too.

Maybe if I just shut up and agree he'd calm himself.

I'm sorry but your just using excuses to stay with him... Please please please get away from him. He will never change, you gotta believe that...
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
Hm thank you guys for all this really.

I think its the drinking though that causes all this. Well he still acts crazy even when he isn't but not as bad I guess. We were on the fone again. I think he had 1 two many. He told me I should just b a prostitute. Not sure y. I guess cuz I hung out with my friend or had a dress on the other day. *sigh* I'm just tired. Drained. He's so jealous for no reason too.

Maybe if I just shut up and agree he'd calm himself.

You DON'T have to shut up and agree. He's only abusing you and trying to own you. You are a human being, not an object of his property!
 

3times

Well-known member
I feel like crying. I'm so tired. My friend saw a large bruise on my kneck and asked wat it was. I thought it was a passion mark but when I saw my bf I didn't let him touch me that day(or ever) but I looked closer at the inflamed red sore bruise and noticed teeth markers and I remembered he FREAKIN bit me. Wtf ugh
 
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