KiaKaha
Banned
Hey,
How are you? me? Im good considering...
Anyway.. I wanted to get some feedback on this. See, I have a hard time making friends, I think part of my problem is that I try a little too hard..maybe come on to strong... I am quite shy so I think I send out mixed signals which confuse people....and I dont handle rejection to well...I always try to be a good chap and it makes me feel a bit crap when people dont see that in me. Anyway.. that being said I am quite frustrated with the "how" to make friends thing. It seems that people dont want anything to do with you if they dont know you. But everybody is a stranger at one point or another, so how do these bonds of friendship form?
Its like this... IMHO
Two strangers...dont know each other...dont bother with each other...no communication...no bond.... no friendship...
I see it everywhere...and it feels like I am the only one who notices it.
What I am really asking is...how is it that people form any kind of relationship with one another if no body is willing to make the first move?
I used to think, ok well I will be different, I will say hello first and I will do the small talk, I will introduce myself FIRST...but even then...people just dont want to know you for the shear fact that they dont already know you..
is this making any sense?
Also another thing is...how does another person KNOW that they dont like you if they dont know you? Wouldnt make more sense to have the insight to realize that you can only dislike someone if you know them...?
argh...
I used to believe strangers were only friends that you havent met yet...but now I think I am wrong... I am so confused.
Help...?
How are you? me? Im good considering...
Anyway.. I wanted to get some feedback on this. See, I have a hard time making friends, I think part of my problem is that I try a little too hard..maybe come on to strong... I am quite shy so I think I send out mixed signals which confuse people....and I dont handle rejection to well...I always try to be a good chap and it makes me feel a bit crap when people dont see that in me. Anyway.. that being said I am quite frustrated with the "how" to make friends thing. It seems that people dont want anything to do with you if they dont know you. But everybody is a stranger at one point or another, so how do these bonds of friendship form?
Its like this... IMHO
Two strangers...dont know each other...dont bother with each other...no communication...no bond.... no friendship...
I see it everywhere...and it feels like I am the only one who notices it.
What I am really asking is...how is it that people form any kind of relationship with one another if no body is willing to make the first move?
I used to think, ok well I will be different, I will say hello first and I will do the small talk, I will introduce myself FIRST...but even then...people just dont want to know you for the shear fact that they dont already know you..
is this making any sense?
Also another thing is...how does another person KNOW that they dont like you if they dont know you? Wouldnt make more sense to have the insight to realize that you can only dislike someone if you know them...?
argh...
I used to believe strangers were only friends that you havent met yet...but now I think I am wrong... I am so confused.
Help...?