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Old 12-31-2012
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This is another interesting article that arrived in the email:

"The patients she described were mostly guys in their late 20's and
early 30's who were prone to anxiety for no readily apparent
reason. They'd had good childhoods and great relationships with
their parents, but for some strange reason became extremely anxious
under the least bit of stress.

Looking for commonalities in the backgrounds, the psychologist
discovered something startling: all of them had parents who never
allowed them to feel any pain. If they fell down when they were a
kid, mommy and daddy were there immediately to pick them up and
kiss their **** instead of letting them process it for a bit.

They were always told how wonderful they were, always protected
from big, bad bullies, and were always given awards for self esteem
even if they just showed up. In other words, they were sheltered
from conflict and uncertainty, either from other people or from the
environment.

As a result, they were clueless about how to deal with conflict
when they left home, and experienced paralyzing anxiety at even the
hint of it. Uncertainty made them so nervous and anxious they
couldn't function...all they knew how to do was wait for mommy and
daddy to come help."
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Sounds about right. Wouldn't call this startling though. Seems a tad bit common sense that a sheltered child will have some behavioral faults or weaknesses.
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Old 12-31-2012
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That might be partially true, but genetics is the over riding reason for severe anxieties .
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Old 12-31-2012
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well the only part that sounds right is "didn't allow them to feel pain", but i don't think that having 'mommy and daddy to pick you up' is the only way this can manifest. If your parents got angry at you when you showed negative emotions, this is also a means of making pain off-limits. just a thought
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Old 12-31-2012
 

I was not spoiled, nor was I protected from big bad bullies when I was growing up. I mostly kept the bullyings to myself; there were so many things I didn't share with my parents. I didn't get the help that I needed, nor did I have a good role model in life, which is probably one of the reasons why I developed SA.
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Old 05-02-2014
 

Appears to be about right. Wouldn't say that this is stunning though. Seems a tad bit sound judgement that a protected kid will have some behaviour mistakes or weak points. affordable website design
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Old 05-02-2014
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I wasn't protected from bullies. I discovered conflict in high school. I wonder how my parents could have prepared me for that? Perhaps they should've hired some bullies for when I was in primary school to harden me up?

I never told anyone, I dealt with it on my own, but my parents probably saved my life, they were not to blame, for me not being able to cope.
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Old 05-02-2014
 

I'm rereading this thread again. I think the psychologist is generalizing that all people with SA are spoiled and sheltered from very early on in life. I know that's not the case for me. SA can develop in various ways.
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