Afraid of flirting

I'm not a flirt but I feel self conscious about people thinking I might be trying to hit on them or something. Like I don't want to come across as this person who is desperately trying to flirt. I try to avoid even giving the slightest hints that might indicate I'm interested in the person. I don't know... I feel embarassed? And I feel that I might be embarassing him too... I just posted on this guy's page telling him he should grow a goatee again because it looks so awesome, lol then I deleted it because I was afraid he might think I'm trying to hit on him lol.

Nothing wrong with casual flirting, its fun and Id say nearly everyone enjoys it . I guess you just have to be careful encased you might offend someone. I'm speaking from a males pov of course

I do think everyone tends to casually flirt too and it's a natural thing to do, human nature and kinda instinctual. I don't think someone is going to take it as anything more unless you press the issue. If you're worried that someone will take it as you liking them when you don't just remember how you phrase things with those certain people and try not to make it come across as being a tease or something which my friend does a lot. Most times people mistake my being nice as something more which is unfortunate and an awkward situation and conversation, so I know what you're talking about

On a side note, I did the same thing one time, haha. Told this guy that his moutstache was kick ass and was in leagues with Burt Reynolds and Tom Selleck ONLY because I'm this huge moustache fanatic and he took it as more. Clearly it wasn't though, lol.

I think about that sometimes too. As that is not an impression I want to give off...being a married woman.

I think I can be a bit of a flirt when I'm comfortable with someone. Most of the time the fact that I'm comfortable is due to knowing that the other person is not available and won't take me seriously anyway. It actually hasn't been that many people, not even a handful, but there are a few coworkers that are in a relationship/married and/or much younger or older,etc., that I joke around with at times. It's never gone anywhere, or even lead someone on that I know of. I would never have any intention of breaking up anyone's relationship, and I would be way too scared to flirt with guys that I knew were available- especially if I were attracted to them.

I know exactly what you mean LaLaLa i worry that people might think i'm flirting as well when all i'm trying to do is be nice. I try to word what i say very carefully because i don't want to lead any one on or give them the wrong idea. It's happened loads of times when guys think i am flirting with them when i just think i'm being nice, it's so hard to know what the difference is, it totally confuzzles me lol

Even as a guy I'm kind of afraid of flirting. But more because I can't distinguish actual flirting from something else. So I usually don't respond well to it. Sorry ladies ::

I feel I'm very naive when it comes to flirting. I don't even know when I'm doing it. I can barely look at a girl I find attractive (and don't know).