Affraid of meeting old friends :S

prince1

prince1

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Anyone here affraid to meet up with people you havent seen for a while, like there's a few people i used to hang about with like 6 months ago and now i cant meet them because i think they will say somthing negative about the way my looks might of changed or my personality. Sounds strange yeh, but im loosing alot of good friends because of this problem.
 
signs05

signs05

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Hi !

I feel the same way when I'm about to meet friends, however this usually wears off when I actually hook up with them and we get to talking.
 
fruitbat

fruitbat

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Whenever I'm out shopping or anything, if I see anyone I know I'll always go out of my way to avoid them. It's something I don't even think about, I just get the impulse to hide. I always feel bad about it afterwards, because a lot of the time it's someone who I'd like to talk to if I wasn't so afraid.

I actually find it much easier to talk to strangers than to people who already know me. Especially people who I went to school with, maybe because school made my anxiety much, much worse, I feel like that's what they expect of me.

And I'm also afraid of being asked what I've been doing these days, and having to say I've been doing absolutely nothing, no work, no school...
 
rado31

rado31

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I m much more the same that is mentioned here.



Surprisingly, today i met my old friend, his gf and his friend, and
i was the one who was talking to them for alnmost one hour.
One beer makes wonder. After that i was sleepy. Thats another beer related wonder.
 
theanxious

theanxious

New member
Same feeling

Hi there,

I feel exactly the same, i lost a lot of friends, a lot of colleagues, :(
i am trying to avoid anyone most of the time.
and much more, avoid being in public, avoid being in center of attention.
Recently, i tried to search about my problem, i was thinking that i am the only person in the world who is suffering from such feeling.
Fortunately, i discover that there are many, and that what i am feeling is a well know disorder named 'Social Anxiety'.
I am trying to get therapy, find support, making friends in order to help each other to overcome such feeling.

Looking for friends :)
 
Fidgey

Fidgey

Active member
fruitbat said:
Whenever I'm out shopping or anything, if I see anyone I know I'll always go out of my way to avoid them. It's something I don't even think about, I just get the impulse to hide. I always feel bad about it afterwards, because a lot of the time it's someone who I'd like to talk to if I wasn't so afraid.

I actually find it much easier to talk to strangers than to people who already know me. Especially people who I went to school with, maybe because school made my anxiety much, much worse, I feel like that's what they expect of me.

And I'm also afraid of being asked what I've been doing these days, and having to say I've been doing absolutely nothing, no work, no school...
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Hi Fruitbat you sound like a carbon copy of me. I can be quite charming and chatty with strangers when forced to ie work but when I get to know someone it becomes very hard. I think this is because you run out of ways of bullshitting others. You cant really tell people the truth.

It comes down to the adage that you need friends to make them.
 
Niles

Niles

Active member
I hate the thought of meeting anyone who knew me from my past. I put in a transfer and moved to a different city because i found out that some guy i went to school with was working at the same company as me - i almost ran into him a few times, but managed to successfully dodge that bullet until i left. Believe me it was a bullet i was dodging.
 
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