Advice please :)

I'm 20 and growing up through puberty I had "moobs" that never left which is one of the things that made me develop social anxiety as I felt I was always being judged and what not, but I have a girlfriend now and been with her for 5 months but I can't even take my top off, even during sex. She asked me today why I did it and I told her i'll work on it, but what can I do as I hate my upper body but still wish to work on it for her?

My main goal would be to lose the moobs but i've lost weight and they stayed the same size. It's not that I feel uncomfortable because of her as I can't even take my top off around family without feeling uncomfortable it's just something in my head which makes me feel uncomfortable in myself

Hi Grah !

Well if you are not feeling comfortable about one feature of your body , it's either work on it or learn to accept it , your girlfriend should accept you the way you are !

I'm not sure about moobs but , perhaps chest exercises could build muscles in that area and make it less apparent ? Some people have fat buildup at specific places , you would have to lower your whole body fat in order to get rid of it , but maybe by developing Pec muscles ?

Could you perhaps ask your family doctor about what you could do?
I think he/she would know better than any stranger - considering all of our bodies are different and we lose weight differently.

I would suggest you learn to accept your flaws, as you see them-- because I doubt your girlfriend will care nearly as much as you.
What is important is what's behind them.
BUT, I understand you being self conscious about it and think you can always strive to work on it.

Parts of our body take more time than others to lose weight and gain muscle; which is the case for your chest, I think.
I would suggest you keep control of your diet and do a few workouts every day and eventually you will see results.
Cardio is good to do on most days; going out for morning runs, skipping, swimming, etc.
Doing a regular workout will help to increase your metabolism.
We always want a quick fix, but really, there's no such thing.
Everything takes time.

Grah said:

I'm 20 and growing up through puberty I had "moobs" that never left which is one of the things that made me develop social anxiety as I felt I was always being judged and what not, but I have a girlfriend now and been with her for 5 months but I can't even take my top off, even during sex. She asked me today why I did it and I told her i'll work on it, but what can I do as I hate my upper body but still wish to work on it for her?

My main goal would be to lose the moobs but i've lost weight and they stayed the same size. It's not that I feel uncomfortable because of her as I can't even take my top off around family without feeling uncomfortable it's just something in my head which makes me feel uncomfortable in myself

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It may be that they're nowhere near as large or noticeable as you think, as you could have developed a case of BDD. Have you considered seeing a doctor? They might be able to advise you on how best to deal with your body image, either through surgery (if the weight loss has left excessive skin in your chest area) or some form of therapy to help you feel better about the way that part of your body looks.

alot of men hate having a flat chest , and building muscles is hard when you have nothing , but you have fat so you could get some real muscle mass quite fast.

Thanks for the comments I was hoping to just do certain workouts to burn overall body fat but as I lost weight they stayed the same size which made them more noticable, I guess it is about time I went to the doctor about it as i've been putting it off for years.

Also Blabla the only problem I fear with working on muscles around my pecs is that it will grow muscle under them and push them out more. It really does sound like I have BDD though

If you're overweight, and this is really something that affects you so deeply, work to lose the weight! Work out & eat right! I am not sure if you use metric, but the rule of thumb is 106 + 6 pounds for every inch you are over 5 foot. (For males). I think that if this is such a persistent problem that is concentrated in one area, you should see a doctor. Unless you are overweight, it is probably a hormone problem that could be easily treated.

You are facing this situation just because of your irregular routine of the meals that you take in your routine life. Just be conscious about the use of the food that will be good to maintain your health.

the only thing that can help you is dieting,also they may appear bigger to you than to someone else looking at you.