Vincent
Banned
Some are born with SA,
I would number myself there. From the outset, social contact of any form has been avoided. My understanding is that social skills are learned like anything else. Obviously more complex, there is more trial and error and more to learn. Social learning continues over one's lifetime. Social maturity is probably the best gauge of overall maturity. Being anxious of socialising and avoiding it or not learning from it results in a social maturity far below that of calander age.
Is it just me, or is this a major barrier to getting into it. Isn't this something that needs to be factored into desensitisation or behavioural therapy. Even with the help of books on body language and so forth, will we never be on par with those that weren't held back? I speculate that the majority of unknown social skills can be gleaned more rapidly than the much more refined or advanced techniques.
But, this needs to be factored into efforts to re insert into normal social functioning. Somewhere in cognitive functions, or whatever, acknowledgment should be given to making a lot more social blunders, being laughed at, or disliked than others, because, aside from other handicaps, there aren't the social skills.
Who else gets ideas from TV, movies and suchlike? Characters that glide through social situations, at a level that most people couldn't attain let alone SA. Yet, are these our expectations? How are we susposed to know about social mannerisms and suchlike when alot of this comes from observation (as well as trial and error). What opportunity is there to observe? None, except movies and soap operas, which arent real. They are scripts written by one or more writers, that deliberate over the words for a longer period of time than the time most people have to formulate those words in their head before they have to deliever them. What's more, script writers are more articulate and socially intelligent than the average person, hell, thats a prerequisite of the job.
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I would number myself there. From the outset, social contact of any form has been avoided. My understanding is that social skills are learned like anything else. Obviously more complex, there is more trial and error and more to learn. Social learning continues over one's lifetime. Social maturity is probably the best gauge of overall maturity. Being anxious of socialising and avoiding it or not learning from it results in a social maturity far below that of calander age.
Is it just me, or is this a major barrier to getting into it. Isn't this something that needs to be factored into desensitisation or behavioural therapy. Even with the help of books on body language and so forth, will we never be on par with those that weren't held back? I speculate that the majority of unknown social skills can be gleaned more rapidly than the much more refined or advanced techniques.
But, this needs to be factored into efforts to re insert into normal social functioning. Somewhere in cognitive functions, or whatever, acknowledgment should be given to making a lot more social blunders, being laughed at, or disliked than others, because, aside from other handicaps, there aren't the social skills.
Who else gets ideas from TV, movies and suchlike? Characters that glide through social situations, at a level that most people couldn't attain let alone SA. Yet, are these our expectations? How are we susposed to know about social mannerisms and suchlike when alot of this comes from observation (as well as trial and error). What opportunity is there to observe? None, except movies and soap operas, which arent real. They are scripts written by one or more writers, that deliberate over the words for a longer period of time than the time most people have to formulate those words in their head before they have to deliever them. What's more, script writers are more articulate and socially intelligent than the average person, hell, thats a prerequisite of the job.
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