ShyBeliever
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I was returning to my home city by train and during the travel i began to think about all this SA thing. I believe more and more that our brain is the most talented illusionist of all time lol.
We all know that all our thoughts and presumptions are just false, irrational, unreal. Having that in mind i just spent all the the travel observing people and their behaviour.
The man that was in front of me had a long, weird beard and he was sitting in an awkward position. But he seemed relaxed about everything. Next to him there was a lady (i suppose she was his wife). They were just talking loudly to each other, everybody could hear the conversation. They definitely weren´t social phobic, because they seem relaxed and seemed that they were ignoring what other people around could think about them. Despite their awkardness in certain aspects, i didnt think bad things about them, i didnt think they were stupid at all, i even thought they were nice people.
At my left there was a young girl (maybe 18 years old). She was wearing sun glasses, despite the rainy weather (maybe just for the style), she let fall her mobile phone 3 times in a minute and she seemed embarrased. Her hands seemed to shake as she picked up her mobile. Did i think that she was an awkward girl because of all these little imperfections? No, not at all. If she talked to me would i try to be receptive? Yes of course, maybe she is an amazing person, i just dont know her.
You see?? If we pay attention to people and their behaviours, we can notice that they all are full of flaws and little awkward aspects in their behaviour. The man that is beside us that have the shoes untied, the lady that almost falls down when the bus suddently starts to brake, the guy that is taking the exam and their hands shake when writing, the girl that blushes in front of her friends. They are just not perfect. Noone is perfect. Those people we still call normal is all around us. They´re like us. Are they worried about those imperfections?? Maybe just a little or maybe they are terrified by them (if they are social phobic), or maybe they just dont pay attention to them and feel relaxed about it and they just accept them (that´s the normal and correct attitude). The truth is, even if people around note those flaws (most of them are so self-absorbed that they just dont even notice), they just dont care about it, they may even laugh at us or joke about us and make us feel humilliated, but in the end, in the truth side of things they just dont care, and will quickly forget the episode. How do i know this? I know because i react in the same way, mistakes or imperfections of other people may call my attention but are no important for me. I just accept them and i think everyone else accepts as well.
You can try this. Try to observe people (even on tv) and look for their flaws (even small details, like little distractions, little mistakes, little imperfections on their looks), you´ll be amazed how the world is so imperfect and more surprisingly how the world just accept it. That´s why im convincing myself that the true beauty of life is not all in perfection, but especially, in the acceptance of imperfection.
After all this thinking i just felt so relaxed and relieved.
Sorry if i wasnt clear, my english sometimes is not the best ;P.
I wish all the good luck to you.
We all know that all our thoughts and presumptions are just false, irrational, unreal. Having that in mind i just spent all the the travel observing people and their behaviour.
The man that was in front of me had a long, weird beard and he was sitting in an awkward position. But he seemed relaxed about everything. Next to him there was a lady (i suppose she was his wife). They were just talking loudly to each other, everybody could hear the conversation. They definitely weren´t social phobic, because they seem relaxed and seemed that they were ignoring what other people around could think about them. Despite their awkardness in certain aspects, i didnt think bad things about them, i didnt think they were stupid at all, i even thought they were nice people.
At my left there was a young girl (maybe 18 years old). She was wearing sun glasses, despite the rainy weather (maybe just for the style), she let fall her mobile phone 3 times in a minute and she seemed embarrased. Her hands seemed to shake as she picked up her mobile. Did i think that she was an awkward girl because of all these little imperfections? No, not at all. If she talked to me would i try to be receptive? Yes of course, maybe she is an amazing person, i just dont know her.
You see?? If we pay attention to people and their behaviours, we can notice that they all are full of flaws and little awkward aspects in their behaviour. The man that is beside us that have the shoes untied, the lady that almost falls down when the bus suddently starts to brake, the guy that is taking the exam and their hands shake when writing, the girl that blushes in front of her friends. They are just not perfect. Noone is perfect. Those people we still call normal is all around us. They´re like us. Are they worried about those imperfections?? Maybe just a little or maybe they are terrified by them (if they are social phobic), or maybe they just dont pay attention to them and feel relaxed about it and they just accept them (that´s the normal and correct attitude). The truth is, even if people around note those flaws (most of them are so self-absorbed that they just dont even notice), they just dont care about it, they may even laugh at us or joke about us and make us feel humilliated, but in the end, in the truth side of things they just dont care, and will quickly forget the episode. How do i know this? I know because i react in the same way, mistakes or imperfections of other people may call my attention but are no important for me. I just accept them and i think everyone else accepts as well.
You can try this. Try to observe people (even on tv) and look for their flaws (even small details, like little distractions, little mistakes, little imperfections on their looks), you´ll be amazed how the world is so imperfect and more surprisingly how the world just accept it. That´s why im convincing myself that the true beauty of life is not all in perfection, but especially, in the acceptance of imperfection.
After all this thinking i just felt so relaxed and relieved.
Sorry if i wasnt clear, my english sometimes is not the best ;P.
I wish all the good luck to you.
