Accept or Trying?

I wonder... Is it BAD for people living with AvPD? What's the best thing to do when you realize that you have AvPD? Just learning to accept yourself the way you are or trying to cure it?

I have no great understanding of your condition but acceptance of it can play a role in actually curing it.
This is true of most things I believe.
Basic human mind mechanics.

You can do both,accept and cure,but if you struggle to deny part of who are then it will only serve to frustrate your efforts to do anything.

Good question! Actually this is a good post for SA and anything other kind of mental disorder, really..... Accept it as part of your personality/lot in life, or try to find a way to "cure" it?

My answer would be..... If it is indeed a "disorder", why should you accept it if there is hope of being free of it, or at least diminishing its effect on you? I don't think ANYONE with a disorder of this kind should just "accept" it as their fate because there could be so much potential and freedom around the corner.

That being said, while it is still a great hindrance to you I definitely think you should practice acceptance of the state you are currently in, and work with it and be kind to yourself. Easier said than done, trust me I know.

Accepting in some respects is okay, but not as in "giving up." There are lot's of life improvements people with AvPD can make to raise their quality of life and to help them function better in society. The avoidant tendencies may never go away, but they can be challenged and lessened to a point where their effect on your life is minimalized. I think it's okay to accept that you'll have this problem, but not accept that it will keep you from living your life the way you want to. You should never accept that.

What if we lived in a world where what is valued is being more solitary? Imagine all those social people feeling bad about being social, telling themselves that it's ok to accept yourself as you are, and that you can work on your problem and endeavor to be more solitary...

I guess my question is, are we feeling bad because the larger culture implies that we should?

I do struggle with lonliness, but maybe if people were more sensitive, more willing to be vulnerable, and kind...

What if kindness was more prevalent than violence in movies?

I'm just saying, look at this world...maybe it's insane to try and be a part of it.

I think one of the major issues for those with AvPD is an overwhelming sense of shame. Therefore, I think that learning to accept yourself and simultaneously diminishing that shame IS the cure.