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machine

New member
Hi everyone. I'm 20 years old, have had SA since I was about 14. It's been getting worse over the past few years, this summer I was unable to leave home at all. I'm sick of wasting my life. Decided to try to challenge SA again, starting with walks. Have managed to have a few chats with other dog owners, although I'm sure they thought I was odd judging from some expressions.. My conversations skills are terrible.

Yep.. Don't know what else to say. I like animals, and the colour blue. Joined here to find some people I can relate to, read their experiences, reply to stuff..

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Shinigami

Well-known member
Hello there. A few years ago I joined this site and although I've yet to find my answers for getting over shyness I remember reading posts and being reminded that I was'nt alone in feeling like this.
 

tango

New member
Hi everyone. I'm new here and SA is a big problem in my life. As a result it's made me quite misanthropic. I've got nothing interesting to say since i'm so socially inept but I hope I can get some perspectives here and make some friends.
 

lalahdaisys

Member
Hello all.

Im a 20year old only child who has been suffering with SA since i came in this world...
3years ago i got a push from my family & have made progress.
But now im starting University without my people around me & its creeping up on me again...
I can only communicate with 3 or 4 people who i am ok with but when in groups exeeding 6 or more or a sea of people i get a choking feeling...
I was bullied in school cuz im not the healthiest of people.
I would play my parents up so i wouldnt go to school.
Now im entering university & i cannot imagine my fate...
I just want to live a normal life...
But seems that thats far away...
 
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Hello everyone, it is a really great community and forum here. I have read for some time. Decided to join as things are just getting too bad. It is a comfort to just know that I am not alone and that I can have people to talk to who understand and can confide in. Don’t have anyone to talk to about things in life, haven’t any friends really and family is a big no, no. I hope that I can help others too. Talking and sharing makes a big difference. I am an easy going girl, at a real loose end and so worried about life. Social anxiety has worsened and cannot see how things will change. Feeling really down and just completely lost too.
 
Hello all.

Im a 20year old only child who has been suffering with SA since i came in this world...
3years ago i got a push from my family & have made progress.
But now im starting University without my people around me & its creeping up on me again...
I can only communicate with 3 or 4 people who i am ok with but when in groups exeeding 6 or more or a sea of people i get a choking feeling...
I was bullied in school cuz im not the healthiest of people.
I would play my parents up so i wouldnt go to school.
Now im entering university & i cannot imagine my fate...
I just want to live a normal life...
But seems that thats far away...

Hello, I was interested in your post and it is something we have in common by joining at the same time! Also reading it is something that I experienced too with going to university. It must be so worrying for you. It is also a big adventure too and should be exciting. I hope that things will go well for you, it will be tough being away from family support but at uni you will likely meet more like minded people who will become like a second family. All the best.
 

lalahdaisys

Member
Hello, I was interested in your post and it is something we have in common by joining at the same time! Also reading it is something that I experienced too with going to university. It must be so worrying for you. It is also a big adventure too and should be exciting. I hope that things will go well for you, it will be tough being away from family support but at uni you will likely meet more like minded people who will become like a second family. All the best.

Yep its worrying for me because its like 2 citys away from where i live.
Im going to be boarding very close by to the school because my mother knows how weak i am.
It will be for 6months. There was the same course that i wanted closer to where i live but they stopped it. It annoyed me so much...
It will be fun but im so weak :sad:
 
Yep its worrying for me because its like 2 citys away from where i live.
Im going to be boarding very close by to the school because my mother knows how weak i am.
It will be for 6months. There was the same course that i wanted closer to where i live but they stopped it. It annoyed me so much...
It will be fun but im so weak :sad:

Such a pity that about the course. It is good for you though that it is not such a long period. Family always be there to phone and sure you'll have plenty visits. May not seem it now but maybe this new experience will give you some new strength to help you cope better. Never know, you may even surprise yourself at how well you do and cope.
 

AllAroundMyHat

New member
Hello,

I have some kind of avoidant/social phobia, here was also some question of schizotypal disorder too.
The psichiatrist never settled on a definite diagnosis, at least not that he was prepared to tell me about.

What I like about these kind of forums is that there is discussion of what the problem is and of trying to understand. I much prefer this to being prescribed some course of action to force me to be more sociable, which is just torture and creates more phobias for me. I find that once i understand things for myself or encounter some positive source of motivation (i.e. not shame or guilt based) i may in time develope my own motivation.

I am on another forum but it gradually dwindled to just one or two people. This seems like its quite active.

These days i am more just a solitary person, and feel quite numb inside most of the time. In the past i have been more of a people pleaser type person trying to be sociable but it just burned me out. tbh I wish i hadnt tried. all that anxiety has shot my memory and concentration to pieces. they are two things which are very important to me and i am grieving for the loss of them.

I used to enjoy reading and being kind to people and various activities. now i enjoy procrastinating and am largely indiferent to others.

Cant think of anything more to say by way of introduction.
 

uksam

Well-known member
Hey everyone,

Long time sufferer of HH here, just looking for somewhere to chat to others in a similar position, offer any advice/anecdotes and that sort of thing.

This place looks great - active and full of genuine, great people.

Keep fighting!
 

Slytherin88

Well-known member
Hi there,
been on here a few days and just found this post. I'm 24 Australian teacher living in London. Doing something drastic like leaving home to move here put me right out of my comfort zone and confront the SP and anxiety so am working on it that way as find meds don't help.
Now just trying to find friends and fit in :)
 

Shadow_puppet

New member
Hi everyone

It's actually really nerve racking writing on a forum but I am trying a little self therapy! I am 26 and although I have never been diagnosed (too embarrassed to visit GP) I think I suffer from social anxiety! It has ruined my life so far and watching all my friends and my sister get married and live normal life's has made me really depressed! I now feel really guilty for feeling depressed because I should be happy for them! The worst part of it all is the pity! They all feel sorry for me and this makes me feel worse!

However I have decided that I will try to be brave and get out there and I am starting here!

Thank you to everyone who has written something on here! It's nice to find people with issues like me!
 

neardeath

Well-known member
Hi everyone

It's actually really nerve racking writing on a forum but I am trying a little self therapy! I am 26 and although I have never been diagnosed (too embarrassed to visit GP) I think I suffer from social anxiety! It has ruined my life so far and watching all my friends and my sister get married and live normal life's has made me really depressed! I now feel really guilty for feeling depressed because I should be happy for them! The worst part of it all is the pity! They all feel sorry for me and this makes me feel worse!

However I have decided that I will try to be brave and get out there and I am starting here!

Thank you to everyone who has written something on here! It's nice to find people with issues like me!

Hello and welcome, Shadow Puppet.
 

crazymind

Member
This forum is really comforting...I suffer from SP too but it aint that severe like most cases of other people...my problem started in my early teens before that I was a normal boy....my SP doesn't allow me to open a conversation with a group of people, new people, talking in public, being in same place as many people(buses, classroom, etc)....the shit which I hate the most is the fact that I am not able to make a girl into my girlfriend not because they don't want but because my SP doesn't let me too...I'm good looking and got many girls who wish they were dating me, I get compliments everyday from them but the SP doesn't let me go after these girls....lately I've been trying to do everything that my SP doesn't allow me to, I'm trying to make relationships work out with girls, although I haven't been successful yet, am really feeling much better...I now spend more time around my cousins and friends and avoid my comfort zone because my comfort zone makes me feel worse...I'm sure soon I'll get over this crap problem...haven't seen a psychiatrist yet because in mozambique I don't believe they are any who are capable of solving my problem...I don't think they have prepared enough...


"Believing is the key to success"


"Believing is the key to success"
 

CherryBlossum

New member
Hi everyone, I'm a newbie, and been suffering from social anxiety since high school, but I've always been the "shy" type since I can remember. I've seen this forum around but never joined until now cuz the people seem really friendly and actually understand what I go through.

I don't think my SA is as bad as it could be, but it's bad enough to affect my daily life.

I do hope to make some friends on here, and become involved.
 
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