A difficult choice

i don't really want to go there. maybe for a vacation or something, but not to live. [...]

Then it would appear best to stay and build up your life where you are now. If you had an abundance of excitement about going there, it would've been different, but as it stands you'd be going for all the wrong reasons.
 

chibiXphantom

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So basically you're planning to illegally marry a sociopath and follow him in a country where women have no right and you can go to jail or worst for adultery or having unpopular opinions. Good luck while you jump off that cliff, it was a pleasure meeting you.

Seriously don't go, just don't.

By the way you don't have to follow a sociopath somewhere you don't want to go to have some adventure. You can choose your own and go by yourself.

it wouldnt be an illegal marriage. we'd go to the court house, get papers signed, etc.

but i'm not going to do it.

it was just a thought.
 

chibiXphantom

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don't think i'm going to go.
don't want to, and it'll just make life more complicated.
though i don't really want to go back home either...
idk where to go...
 

Carol

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If your boyfriend is telling you either to come with him or else stay home by yourself but either way he's taking the job... that doesn't sound like a good enough relationship for marriage. You should make big decisions like this together, as a couple. If he's putting the job ahead of you, then you are not his first priority, therefore marriage would be difficult, especially if you have children. Sorry. :( Wait for someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.
 

chibiXphantom

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If your boyfriend is telling you either to come with him or else stay home by yourself but either way he's taking the job... that doesn't sound like a good enough relationship for marriage. You should make big decisions like this together, as a couple. If he's putting the job ahead of you, then you are not his first priority, therefore marriage would be difficult, especially if you have children. Sorry. :( Wait for someone who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.

it's not that serious of a relationship, nor a traditional one. and definitely would not have children together. the marriage wouldnt be forever anyways.

but as i said, not going. i'll see him in the summer and after his contract is up
 
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