gustavofring
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A lot of people handle people with social anxiety differently I've noticed. Some try to avoid you, some try to waltz over you or confront you, but does anyone else sometimes feel like you're being treated like an idiot by people?
It's like certain people act nice but ingenuine around me, a bit like how people would treat, I don't mean this offensively, a mentally handicapped person.
I have a strong suspicion this is mostly a way to make themselves feel better, like they're somehow the wise, mature, socially capable person and you're the idiot. They try to create some sort of power position, probably even without being aware of it. Also it feels like people are talking behind your back with others, they notice certain behavior ("oh he's lonely and depressed") and try to come up with silly thought-out ingenuine "strategies" to help you out. I especially notice this with roommates of mine, who I've not been very social with lately because I have zero in common with them.
A example is that I went away for a week to see my girlfriend without telling anyone. (Why, it's none of their business and people in a student house come and go all the time without saying) And they got together and started sending me texts like "hey, we miss you. Are you okay?" , even going as far as sending embarrassing Facebook messages to my girlfriend. It's flatout insulting that I can't go away for a week or so, without people thinking I killed myself in my room or something, while I'm actually doing fine in reality.
I always react sarcastically as a defense mechanism. I don't like people acting as if I'm not on the same level as they are. I'd rather have someone being flatout rude to me, atleast it's honest.
Maybe it's just me being unaccepting of "friendliness", but I find most of it to be phony and hypocritical. True friendliness wouldn't make the other person feel like an idiot.
It's like certain people act nice but ingenuine around me, a bit like how people would treat, I don't mean this offensively, a mentally handicapped person.
I have a strong suspicion this is mostly a way to make themselves feel better, like they're somehow the wise, mature, socially capable person and you're the idiot. They try to create some sort of power position, probably even without being aware of it. Also it feels like people are talking behind your back with others, they notice certain behavior ("oh he's lonely and depressed") and try to come up with silly thought-out ingenuine "strategies" to help you out. I especially notice this with roommates of mine, who I've not been very social with lately because I have zero in common with them.
A example is that I went away for a week to see my girlfriend without telling anyone. (Why, it's none of their business and people in a student house come and go all the time without saying) And they got together and started sending me texts like "hey, we miss you. Are you okay?" , even going as far as sending embarrassing Facebook messages to my girlfriend. It's flatout insulting that I can't go away for a week or so, without people thinking I killed myself in my room or something, while I'm actually doing fine in reality.
I always react sarcastically as a defense mechanism. I don't like people acting as if I'm not on the same level as they are. I'd rather have someone being flatout rude to me, atleast it's honest.
Maybe it's just me being unaccepting of "friendliness", but I find most of it to be phony and hypocritical. True friendliness wouldn't make the other person feel like an idiot.
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