Argamemnon
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Given that I hate bars and clubs and don't drink, how and where could I meet people.. Any suggestions?
How to meet people?
- Thread starter Argamemnon
- Start date
What are your interests/hobbies?
Argamemnon
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Reading and working out. I also like to cook and want to get better at it. I'm afraid that's all. Even if I met someone, I wouldn't know what to do (since I don't like going to bars or clubs).
Well the gym is a good place to meet people, and you can also take cooking classes. And bars/clubs aren't really the center of meeting/talking to people. You can grab a bite to eat somewhere, or go to a park. But as I think you already know, that's not even the real issue. As far as social anxiety, you're just on the same boat as the rest of us. 
BTW, are you talking about like dating, or just making friends?
BTW, are you talking about like dating, or just making friends?
Argamemnon
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Making friends..
Argamemnon said:
Well, what I said still stands.
theman
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meet people
If you like reading, grab your favorite book, go to a coffee shop with comfy chairs and sink into one of them. Make sure there are other chairs around you. Read.
When someone else sits nearby, they'll probably be reading too. Ask them about their book.
But don't just ask about what they are reading, be curious about WHY they are reading it. What kind of a person reads a book like that? What does that book reveal about their interests?
What I find interesting about what people read is that people usually identify with a story when they see commonalities between the life story arc of a character in the book and their own life. I find it interesting to put that out there and ask the person what they share in common with the story's characters?
That conversation in itself can be had with anyone, anywhere regardless of what they're reading. You'll build a connection if one is there. If not, go back to your book.
OR you could be a cocky SOB and roll up to a cute someone searching the library stacks and say "Umm....the comic book section is over THERE!"
;>
If you like reading, grab your favorite book, go to a coffee shop with comfy chairs and sink into one of them. Make sure there are other chairs around you. Read.
When someone else sits nearby, they'll probably be reading too. Ask them about their book.
But don't just ask about what they are reading, be curious about WHY they are reading it. What kind of a person reads a book like that? What does that book reveal about their interests?
What I find interesting about what people read is that people usually identify with a story when they see commonalities between the life story arc of a character in the book and their own life. I find it interesting to put that out there and ask the person what they share in common with the story's characters?
That conversation in itself can be had with anyone, anywhere regardless of what they're reading. You'll build a connection if one is there. If not, go back to your book.
OR you could be a cocky SOB and roll up to a cute someone searching the library stacks and say "Umm....the comic book section is over THERE!"
;>