Do you hold back your emotions?

Do you hold back your emotions ?

  • Yes, Always

    Votes: 19 65.5%
  • Sometimes

    Votes: 10 34.5%
  • No, never

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    29
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deleted #89

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I think that there is a great connection between anxiety and holding back how your real emotions/feelings. I personally have the bad habit of holding back my anger/happiness when I am in the " real" world. When I feel happy I quickly snap back to " reality" and tell myself that I am actually sad. Wow...its crazy how im realizing this now as im writing this lol. I also never show my anger to others.... for me getting angry is a signs of weakness and will bring further judgmental comments from others. This is something that I am definitely working on from now on...just to show my true feelings. Many times during the day I will hide behind a depress/anxious wall that I have created. The easiest thing to do is to hide behind that curtain and not take responsibility for myself. Life is truly about choices and attitude...hummmm. I always have the sensation that I am the one who reacts to the world around me when its really the opposite.
 
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Iluv

Well-known member
Yes I do. It's a bad habit to start and hard to fix. I withhold my real feelings from friends/family and bottle them up. As for anger, I have had issues in the past of anger issues and now have to hold them back so I don't do anything stupid. But I am the opposite from your opinion, I find that holding back emotions and anger is weakness. I just can't stand being pushed around and whenever I hold back emotions I end up getting pushed around. Plus it does contribute to my anxiety a lot.
 

Invisibleman

Well-known member
Im always holding back my emotions. Everyday i wake up and I put on my fake smile as a mask to hide how im really feeling which is usually sad and depressed. Ive always been such a reserved guy, my mind is like an impenetrable fortress that I let very,very few people into.
 
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deleted #89

Guest
Yes I do. It's a bad habit to start and hard to fix. I withhold my real feelings from friends/family and bottle them up. As for anger, I have had issues in the past of anger issues and now have to hold them back so I don't do anything stupid. But I am the opposite from your opinion, I find that holding back emotions and anger is weakness. I just can't stand being pushed around and whenever I hold back emotions I end up getting pushed around. Plus it does contribute to my anxiety a lot.

Interesting.... my mother was extremely angry and would lash out at me when I was kids. Maybe its just " the little" me not wanting to go back to that.
 

Iluv

Well-known member
Interesting.... my mother was extremely angry and would lash out at me when I was kids. Maybe its just " the little" me not wanting to go back to that.

My brother and my ex-boyfriend used to lash out on me. I would just sit there and take it and end up not doing anything. Now I feel like because of that I have been taking it out on other people to make up for the times I never stood up for myself in front of my brother, ex and bullies.
 

Azael

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I learnt from a young age the folly of speaking too loosely. I gradually have become a mute and share nothing of myself with anyone. The pressures which ate away my confident bolstered my silence; so now I find it very difficult to be open at all.
 

polishgirl

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I usually don't. I mean, I have a lot of stress in my everyday life and obviously, I can't share my thoughts with everyone but I do talk about my feelings a lot. If I feel bad about something, I will talk about it. However, I never talk about anything good that's happened to me. Always the bad stuff.

But I often feel like I'm getting people bored with my problems, even on here. So I try to tone it down a bit.
 

Nathália

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I hold back my emotions to direct avoid conflict. I freeze up when things happen, I need to practice on my argumentative skills (in a good way). I do not like to fight people but sometimes you really have to stand up for yourself. It's just life and there is no cruise sailing. It's just not a good feeling to have conflict but it's not a good feeling to hold it in. Yes I do think it plays a role in my anxiety because I try to avoid those situations.

Yes. Some people don't look at the aggressor of situations, rather how the other person handles it. I have been handling it all of my life and it only makes me more bitter towards people, on the outside I don't get angry that much but one day I fear because I hold in so much someone is going to keep struming my notes just right and I bite their head off. I really fear that.
 

this_portrait

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Of course, because I'm terribly afraid of conflict. I screw myself over by holding my emotions back, anyway, because then I end up displaying passive-aggressive behavior. It slowly eats me up inside until I can't take it anymore and just burst. By the time I let out my emotions, though, everything has already gone to sh*t.
 

LittleKitty

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I don't understand how people can feel angry, its an emotion I rarely experience.

Sharing my feelings is very hard for me to do.
 

Shyangel

Well-known member
I don't think I do. I show way to much emotion all the time is what my problem is.
I'm very emotional, and have no problem wasting everyone's time to tell them every bit of it. lol It's terrible. There are so many things I want to fix about myself.
 

1BlackSheep

Well-known member
I tend to be someone who has no filter - I say what I think! This unfortunately is not always a good thing. I've had to learn to choose my words more wisely and be a bit more tactful.
 

BleedTheFreak

Well-known member
I hold everything in, and for different reasons depending on the situation. I constantly think about what other people could be thinking about, and I try to tip-toe around their feelings, whatever they may be. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, provoke anyone's anger, or reveal a thought or feeling that I'd be forced to defend. I don't challenge people and I don't invite anyone in to challenge me. And whenever someone has tried to push my buttons I just let it bounce off of me until they get bored. I developed this when I was around 16 because I wanted to keep people away from me, but now I really want to have meaningful interactions with people and I'm completely socially inept and afraid to just let loose.
 
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