do you feel like your always wasting time?

alex29

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im home from uni for the holidays and altho its been nice to spend time with friends who im more comfortable with and be around family ive been really sad still

i dont have anything to do. i almost feel like i have nothing to wake up for. i sleep 9-10 hours just to pass the time. i watch tv and surf the web. every so often i go out but its always a hassle to make plans and all that.

i feel like i should be doingmore with my life. all im doing is going to school. i want to get a job and make money but im really afraid of authority figures because of my SA

at least when i was at school i had my work to distract me, but now that im home with nothing to do i have no motivation to even wake up. i have no motivation to go do things. i feel like im wasting the best years of my life.
 

Tab

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I always feel like I'm wasting time. Even at school I hate doing the work and put it off till the last possible second. I don't do much in a day and I feel like I'll regret it one day but theres nothing for me to do.
 
Yeah, I know how you feel. When I'm on a break from school I'm soooo frickin bored. I don't have a job either, so I literally just sit in my room all day. I can't wait for the next semester to start. At least we're in school though, that's a positive thing. :]
 

madmike

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I've been drinking every day since the holidays started. Beer. One, then another, and another. Sometimes i'm good after 2 or 3... other times i drink till cop out on my bed and sleep for twelve hours. Can't say this is the best way to deal with things, but it helps. I don't really like it at uni either though... so there's not even anything to look forward to
 

JonnyD

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Weell i'm in te exactly same position!!!

i have a 20 days break from work, and i need to do something! , i dont want to be stuck in formt of my notebook, but i dont know what to do :(

Could somebody, anybody give an idea?

It's not just socilizing, i'm out of ideas to get away from home!!! if i can't think of what to do, how would i be able to socialize?
 
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Gina from Australia

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Life is beautiful.......dont drink it makes you sick and broke. Just look at the sky and see how beautiful it is.People wont make you happy......look after yourself. You dont have long in this world so make the most of it.....My kids make me happy to be alive......
 
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AJG85

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Everyone feels like that sometimes. If you feel like that all the time then it may be mild or more developed depression. I'm against throwing a pill at problems whether perceived or real as looking for a "quick fix" of that nature is akin to playing the lottery instead of getting a better job or managing your money correctly.

Now when I get that way I find it's a vicious cycle and the more I dwell on it the less I have the motivation to actually do anything about it then I wind up wasting hours online, playing video games, watching movies, or other things which kill time but don't really solve the problem.

Speaking for myself I can say there are two parts to the problem. One I didn't make or keep any close friends since moving 3,000 miles away from home to go to college and afterward going to work. Two I didn't make the extra effort to spend time and money doing activities which will be entertaining or productive and social that could lead to commitments of doing things more worthwhile with other people on a regular basis.

When I was in high school I had a few things going on like sports and a garage band but I always figured I'd really find my place in college. When I was in college I thought well I'm broke so I can't afford to do much else but drink and party but that will change when I get a job. Now I'm working and paying back student loans but the story gets worse as I got tired of parties. For a few years I was distracted from that fact by being in a relationship with a stripper and although it didn't last (no surprise) I broke a lot of those preconceived notions and excuses that you make to limit yourself. I mean here was a girl who dropped out of high school, smoke and drank constantly, but made way more money then me even though I'm an engineer. More importantly she was constantly surrounded by other people while always knowing what to say in every situation. Sheer bold confidence from constant practice.

So my only advice is if you feel this way you won't just snap out of it or change overnight. You aren't going to win the lottery and waiting for something better to come around is plain stupid. Take 10 minutes and write down a list of 10 things you've always wanted to do but never have. Then it's on you to grab the reins and go after them. Give up soda or smoking and put that money away for a trip to Europe and apply for your passport ... once you get it plan your trip and by the time you're done planning you might just have the money to go or at least be closer then you ever were! Maybe something smaller and more spontaneous to start with like picking a random restaurant or event in your area you've never been to and making it a priority to go no matter what ...

Whatever you do the important thing to remember is never turn down a chance to talk to someone new. Even if you're just going get your mail or grocery shopping strike up a conversation with a stranger and see where it goes. Sure you might get a cold shoulder or blown off but there are over 6 billion people in this world you could probably spend you whole life just saying "Hi" to someone new so take the risk of rejection. Sooner then you think you'll meet people and find new things to do. There are tons of things you can enjoy alone but the real secret to life is the other people in it.

Now what the hell are you still doing reading this!
 
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