LittleMissScareAll
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...although all you wanna do is cry and/or you don't feel like smiling at all?
I do sometimes.
I do sometimes.
Do you ever just pretend to be happy?
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gothic_tiger
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yeah i pretend to be happy sometimes just because i dont want to depress other people.
thequietone
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Sometimes, when I'm just really sick of feeling like crap, I do pretend, because I read somewhere that if you pretend long enough you might start to believe it and it will be true.
That has never really worked for me though :roll:
I am also extremely worried about how my behavior affects those around me, and when I start to notice that I am making other people sad I pretend that I'm fine. Being outwardly depressed also causes people to pay attention to you, sometimes you'll get people who want to "cheer you up", and all that attention is scary! So I just lie and say, yeah, I'm all better now. It's easier to be one person in front of people and your regular sad self behind closed doors. But then you start to feel isolated because nobody knows the "real you", nobody knows or understands your reality. It's just a big vicious cycle. You know what helps me the most? PROZAC. :lol:
That has never really worked for me though :roll:
I am also extremely worried about how my behavior affects those around me, and when I start to notice that I am making other people sad I pretend that I'm fine. Being outwardly depressed also causes people to pay attention to you, sometimes you'll get people who want to "cheer you up", and all that attention is scary! So I just lie and say, yeah, I'm all better now. It's easier to be one person in front of people and your regular sad self behind closed doors. But then you start to feel isolated because nobody knows the "real you", nobody knows or understands your reality. It's just a big vicious cycle. You know what helps me the most? PROZAC. :lol:
LittleMissScareAll
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I guess that's why I do it too, cause I don't really want my family or anybody to worry about me. But sometimes I wish I knew another depressed, social phobic person so I could talk to them or at least know somebody who goes through the same thing as me...not that I'd wish depression/sp on anybody but I just kinda wish I knew somebody else who had depression & social phobia...cause anybody else just either worries about you or they don't understand or care at all.
LittleMissScareAll
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what's wrong Guest? 
It's hard for me to make myself hide it sometimes too.
It's hard for me to make myself hide it sometimes too.
riverbelow
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oh yes, all the time, and it is better sometimes than hearing "what's wrong with you?" i bottled myself up all through high school, and it's all coming back now. it's really hard to keep it all down.
Reholla
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every day.
And i used to hate doing this. First of all it just takes so much energy to pretend to be happy. But i also hated being so fake.
But then after a while (and after talking to my dad) I realized being so depressed and having anxiety, the only way you will get better is to tell yourself you're happy, or at least lucky, or at least SHOULD be happy.
I completely disagreed with my dad when he told me this. I was like you should just relax and be comfortable with your emotions. (I said this cause deep down i wished i could do this and knew i wasnt)
But when youre in that state, that negative cycle, you have to at least push yourself.
If you have iTunes listen to the song "On a High" by Duncan Sheik. I listen to it and tell myself those messages.
the whole "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT" thing has some truth to it. You might as well try it if nothing else has worked for you
And i used to hate doing this. First of all it just takes so much energy to pretend to be happy. But i also hated being so fake.
But then after a while (and after talking to my dad) I realized being so depressed and having anxiety, the only way you will get better is to tell yourself you're happy, or at least lucky, or at least SHOULD be happy.
I completely disagreed with my dad when he told me this. I was like you should just relax and be comfortable with your emotions. (I said this cause deep down i wished i could do this and knew i wasnt)
But when youre in that state, that negative cycle, you have to at least push yourself.
If you have iTunes listen to the song "On a High" by Duncan Sheik. I listen to it and tell myself those messages.
the whole "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT" thing has some truth to it. You might as well try it if nothing else has worked for you
Si
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Looks like we are all in the same boat.Actually there is so many of us like this I might upgrade that to all in the same ship We've outgrown the boat.
It really pisses me off when someone says to me "Whats wrong" or " Come on, smile", or have you ever had someone say," You only use so many muscles to smile yet you use a hell of a lot more to frown".Well hello ! When you've got SP it takes every damn muscle in your body to smile, so piss off. :x
Oh how I wish a smile would come naturally.But it doesn't.The only time it is easy is when you laugh.So I try to laugh as much as possible.It really gives those smiley muscles a work out Yes thats the key, give those smiley muscles a work out every day.I'd say try and do 50 smile-ups for the first few days and slowly increase that to a hundred smile- ups in a couple of weeks.And by the end of the month you might have a natural smile..........even though you might not be happy.
We've outgrown the boat.It really pisses me off when someone says to me "Whats wrong" or " Come on, smile", or have you ever had someone say," You only use so many muscles to smile yet you use a hell of a lot more to frown".Well hello ! When you've got SP it takes every damn muscle in your body to smile, so piss off. :x
Oh how I wish a smile would come naturally.But it doesn't.The only time it is easy is when you laugh.So I try to laugh as much as possible.It really gives those smiley muscles a work out
Yes thats the key, give those smiley muscles a work out every day.I'd say try and do 50 smile-ups for the first few days and slowly increase that to a hundred smile- ups in a couple of weeks.And by the end of the month you might have a natural smile..........even though you might not be happy. 
natebrooce
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i pretend to be happy, I do it soo much that sometimes i believe it for just a few seconds, sooo000ooo am i happy then?
i dont understand my mind very well i think i lost my mind somewhere along the line.
i dont understand my mind very well i think i lost my mind somewhere along the line.
MelBreakOutOfShell
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Being one has has went almost my whole life wondering what the hell is wrong with me that I can't be happy... (until I went to a psychologist who diagnosed me) I have always heard: "snap out of it," "just think positive," there's no reason to cry."
As everyone who truly acknowledges how their derpression works knows that this is not always possible especially when you feel like you are in what some call "a hole" or "dark place."
There are times when I can control it, but most times I cannot. When I am not taking meds that is. As long as i take my medication (Welbutrin XL works best for me) and keep aknowledging feelings as they come up on my own or through therapy, am I able to control my emotions and what goes through my head.
the best thing that I do when i get depressed is tell someone. Usually, it's my boyfiend and he is very supportive by just listening to me and not saying anything... once i let is off of my chest... i feel a little better.
As everyone who truly acknowledges how their derpression works knows that this is not always possible especially when you feel like you are in what some call "a hole" or "dark place."
There are times when I can control it, but most times I cannot. When I am not taking meds that is. As long as i take my medication (Welbutrin XL works best for me) and keep aknowledging feelings as they come up on my own or through therapy, am I able to control my emotions and what goes through my head.
the best thing that I do when i get depressed is tell someone. Usually, it's my boyfiend and he is very supportive by just listening to me and not saying anything... once i let is off of my chest... i feel a little better.
